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May 27th, 2009, 10:56 AM
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My grandma just passed a way, we just got the call an hour ago. Right now I'm very numb, can't even cry, trying to keep it together for the kids and dont want to mess up my breastfeeding supply.

But I'm having an even harder time with my almost 3yr old how to explain it to him.
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May 27th, 2009, 03:01 PM
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I am so, so sorry for your loss, sweetheart. Obviously there's never a good time for something so sad to happen but I understand how difficult it is when there's a close loss in the family when you have a new baby to worry about. Please make sure that you look after yourself as much as your family. I know that's difficult and you will always put your family first, but allow yourself some space and time to cry if and when you need to, honey x x

Explaining loss to a child is a really hard thing to do and I'm so sorry you have this added burden on top of your own grief.

Here are a couple of links you may find useful:

Helping Your Child Deal With Death

Talking to children about death

Once again I am terribly sorry for your loss, honey. Please remember that we are always here for you any time you want to talk, cry, vent or let it out to someone. You'll be in my thoughts x x
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May 29th, 2009, 02:39 AM
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How are you doing, honey? Please do check in and let us know how you're getting on when you can. I've been keeping you in my thoughts x x
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May 29th, 2009, 07:44 PM
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We just had her mass this morning, the priests she wanted were out of town next week so we had to get everything done in a very short time. Now we are having to clear out her house/apartment because if we dont' by Sunday we have to pay for Junes rent which we cannot afford to do. And we are having to have a yard sale to get rid of her furniture which is hard but we dont have the room in our garage.
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May 30th, 2009, 04:05 AM
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I'm so sorry that you've had so much to do on top of coping with your loss, honey. I remember when my grandmother died a few years ago we had to clear her house quickly for the same reason, which was difficult. I hope that the yard sale goes well and that you are able to get these difficult tasks over with as quickly and easily as possible.

How is your son doing? Does he understand what's going on? x x
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June 2nd, 2009, 10:51 PM
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No he doesn't quite get it. It made my mom sad the other day cause he saw a picture of Nana and kept saying "Nana, Nana" and my mom told him a couple times that Nana was gone, but he doesn't quite understand
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June 4th, 2009, 08:15 AM
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I'm sorry that it's been so difficult to help your son understand what is going on. It can take children a long time to understand the concept of dying and they struggle to realise why they cannot see that person again. I think it just takes time and patience, which you're giving him. You've been in my thoughts x x

How are the yard sale plans going, honey? When are you hoping to hold it?
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June 4th, 2009, 03:22 PM
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We're doing it tomorrow(friday) and saturday. We still havent' gone through all her stuff, this week's been hectic with her things.

Matter of fact our trunk is still full of stuff we keep forgetting to get out of the car.

My mom's had a busy time getting things done so she hasnt' had the time/wanted to go through everything though she keeps telling me to sell it all, which I dont want to(first off my grandma left me all her books...4boxes of them(medium sized ones) and I dont want to just sell them). My grandma was adopted back in 1937 so we are trying to see if we can get her records open, which we found out last night its possible the adoption agency doesn't have her paper work any more
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June 5th, 2009, 03:20 PM
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Oh honey, you just have so much going on right now I wish there was more I could do or say x x

I'll be keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers and hopefully her records will still be available and you'll be able to get the answers you're hoping for.

I think you're doing the right thing by not selling certain things - things like books can mean a lot and if there are items that remind you of your grandma that you wish to hold on to then you'll only regret it if you let them go, so with anything more presonal take your time before you decide to sell them x x

Thinking of you and your family x x Let us know how the yard sale goes - I'll be hoping it passes easily for you x
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June 25th, 2009, 02:36 PM
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I was wondering how you were doing, honey? Please drop by if you have a chance and let us know how you are coping. You're in our thoughts x x
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