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August 6th, 2009, 06:47 AM
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Do you ever find that you grieve almost as much for the person you used to be as for the person you have lost?

I was thinking earlier how I can never be the same person again that I was before my losses. I'll never experience the innocent joy of pregnancy without the fear of losing another baby. Even with my two girls, I don't feel like I really got to enjoy their pregnancies because I was constantly worrying about what had happened before.
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August 8th, 2009, 09:33 PM
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Yes! I definitely wish I could go back to being care-free-nothing-can-go-wrong-Augie. Like you said, I will always have the fear of losing another baby. I will never not worry during a pregnancy. I will not get to experience that blissful happiness. For me, that BFP brings immense fear. Will it happen again? Will this be my breaking point?
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August 9th, 2009, 12:59 PM
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I understand that fear totally. I never, ever stop feeling blessed to have my girls here safely but I wish I could have enjoyed my pregnancies without being terrified the whole way through. I thing loss causes lost innocence too.
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August 28th, 2009, 10:13 AM
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Yes, yes, yes! I am always wondering if I will know a moment of pure happiness again. It's like my entire life has gone from Technicolor to monochrome. I remember feeling joy, but I also remember feeling simple contentment. I never feel that anymore.
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August 28th, 2009, 04:57 PM
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I am so jealous of my friends having blissful pregnancies. Planning nurseries, buying family friendly cars - I'll never do these things without thinking "What if my baby dies?"

I miss the old me.
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August 29th, 2009, 06:34 AM
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Laurie, yes - I know what you mean about feeling just contentment. It's that feeling of NOT having something weighing you down with every breath, that feeling of things just being OK. ((((((hugs))))))

Rebecca, I am so sorry for what you have been through and the way it will always affect you while you are TTC and when you are pregnant. I wish that you could feel that innocent joy and carefree excitement again without the fears x x
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