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Do you ever find that you grieve almost as much for the person you used to be as for the person you have lost?
I was thinking earlier how I can never be the same person again that I was before my losses. I'll never experience the innocent joy of pregnancy without the fear of losing another baby. Even with my two girls, I don't feel like I really got to enjoy their pregnancies because I was constantly worrying about what had happened before.
Yes! I definitely wish I could go back to being care-free-nothing-can-go-wrong-Augie. Like you said, I will always have the fear of losing another baby. I will never not worry during a pregnancy. I will not get to experience that blissful happiness. For me, that BFP brings immense fear. Will it happen again? Will this be my breaking point?
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Proud former foster parent to a teen. Waiting on our next call. Proud Aunt to 22.
Proud mommy to 7 angels. Survivor of 4 failed adoptions (5 kids)
I understand that fear totally. I never, ever stop feeling blessed to have my girls here safely but I wish I could have enjoyed my pregnancies without being terrified the whole way through. I thing loss causes lost innocence too.
Yes, yes, yes! I am always wondering if I will know a moment of pure happiness again. It's like my entire life has gone from Technicolor to monochrome. I remember feeling joy, but I also remember feeling simple contentment. I never feel that anymore.
Laurie, yes - I know what you mean about feeling just contentment. It's that feeling of NOT having something weighing you down with every breath, that feeling of things just being OK. ((((((hugs))))))
Rebecca, I am so sorry for what you have been through and the way it will always affect you while you are TTC and when you are pregnant. I wish that you could feel that innocent joy and carefree excitement again without the fears x x