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I am so so so deeply sorry for your loss. I know the pain of losing an infant as I lost my newborn daughter last November at 22 days old. I think the hardest part for me is that nobody talks about her, nobody wants to "upset me". I dont know how true that is in your situation or not. I feel, as mothers, we need to keep their memory alive or else it was like they never existed at all. So I talk about it as much as I can. It makes me feel better, as though she is in the nursery just fine. Everybody has their own coping techniques but I know that going through the loss of a child, much less an infant, is so unnatural feeling and its like a little piece of you died with them. Never to return. Make sure you talk to someone. Dont try to do it alone. I tried and snapped into full blown depression.
I know your pain so please pm me if you EVER need to talk. Best of luck sweetie.
Yeah its the same with me. Very few female friends and my family is so hush hush.
See I had my daughter cremated but never got any type of service or funeral type of closure. I feel like it never really finished. That I still havent said goodbye. I need that closure so I talk about her any chance I get. My husband and I have 2 other kids to care for that need us to be strong but I couldnt bring myself to tell my 8 yr old daughter that her baby sister was cremated-it would freak her out. So she just continuously asks when we're going to bury her. Which makes it worse. I often wonder the same though if people are just moved on and dont think about her anymore or what? How can you recover so easily from something so tragic? I have talked to a few counselers from the MISS foundation which has been really helpful. Maybe you can try that out and see if it helps you also...?