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I already posted under inlaws, but that's OK. DS's grandmother (my x's mom) had him for the summer & then filed for custody when I went to pick him up. She is making all sorts of claims that I'm a danger to him & that's just not true. He doesn't want to talk to or about me now.
I keep trying to remind myself that she is just angry with me because her son is being punished for what he did to me. That is not my fault but she doesn't understand that. Sometimes I even manage to stop being mad for 5 whole minutes!
Oh, sweetie...I am so sorry for the pain your x-mil is putting you through...and your ds...I hope she will realize, soon, that what she's doing is only hurting him in the end..and that you are able to reunite with your son asap...love and light to you in the hopes that it resolves the way it should...((hugs))
A very special THANK YOU to Bokkechick for my gorgeous new siggy!
Thank you. I'm in for the fight of a lifetime but I know I'm right & that just has to be enough. I refuse to sink to her level of accusations & I refuse to accept any more of her negativity. I would love to just forget she exists but for now I can't. When DS has had enough, them I can finally be rid of her.
Oh & in case I wasn't clear about it, she has temp custody & I'm not allowed contact right now. Goddess please bring me a good (cheap) lawyer!
I would do a lot of affirmations/spells that AFFIRM that you and your child are happy and safe and that you'll always be secure together and that xMIL will see the light and be content and happy knowing that he's ok with you. Do it over and over and over again Focus on what you DO want, not on what you don't want your xMIL to do.
Thanks. It makes me feel a little better to know other people would be tempted to do it too.
I've been trying to focus on what I do want & I spent most of last night trying to make my head realize what my heart already knows. Just because he goes along with it doesn't mean he actually believes it. I'm never going to understand how & why she would do this, so I've given up trying. Forgiveness is a bit beyond me right now but I'm working on it. That woman needs love more than anything but I just can't give it to her.
Remember, forgiveness isn't about forgiving said person, but rather an act for you to release your anger to the higher good. You don't have to forgive xMIL, but you do need to let that anger and resentment go, for you and your son.
You can't accomplish anything while angry and hot tempered.
Lots of luck to you and I hope it all goes smoothly and you and your son are happy, healthy, and at peace.