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What's your best strategy for dealing with friends or family's attempts to convert you to their religion?
I really don't have one, other than telling them I'm happy so they shouldn't worry. But wow does it get old. About to cut off a couple of people because its becoming as predictable in our conversations as Hi and Bye.
I just smile, thank them for their concern and bless their hearts. (I'm Southern)
Luckily, I haven't had to deal with Bible thumpers too much in recent years. Family has learned to just not say anything at all and friends are mostly all Pagan or Pagan-friendly. The only ones I have to deal with is the occasional JW knocking at the door. (Which only happens once every 2 or 3 months.)
Only real ones I have to deal with are JW's or LDS missionaries that happen to knock on our door and then I just let them do their speech and thank them and tell them we have our own beliefs and are happy and go have a nice day.
The only one in my family who tried to convert me back to the LDS faith(was LDS for the first 34 yrs of my life and all family still are very active) was my 80something year old grandma and she is soothed with a "it will be alright Grandma. Promise you'll see us again on the other side."
My family is actually mostly OK. They're all Christian but not pushy. They say they will pray for me, usually because of a problem I'm having, and I thank them for it and move on.
The problem is friends. People I've been friends with for years (and don't want to lose) are just driving me batty! We have the same basic conversation I have with my family, and then it ends with them promising to pray for me to see the error of my ways, blah blah blah. I try to be nice but it usually ends in an argument. They just refuse to accept that its not a phase, or whatever it is they think.
I'm not fully open/public with my beliefs yet. Partially because I fear the reactions, just not ready to deal with that yet, and partially because I'm still so new.
My Grandma found out, and told me I worshiped Satan. Then we kind of got into it, because she wants my daughter to go to a Christian daycare/Pre-Kindergarden school... And I don't want her to. But my Grandma and I just don't talk about that subject.
However, if the rest of my mother's family finds out, I'm sure I will hear all about it. My mom already says she prays for me. I just smile and say "Thank you, but I just don't need it." I'm happy and I wish that was all that mattered.
I know how you feel! It seems to me that if they really cared, that our happiness would be what mattered. But I guess some people just have to be right. In my better moments, I feel sorry for them for being narrow minded, instead of getting angry with them. Those moments aren't very often though.
i try to be polite and be thankful. After all its a lot like sending love and light and thats very thoughtful of them if they are persistant and/or rude then i may be tempted to prout off at the mouth but i will try not to. its happened in the past. im learning tolerance more and more. i really do not like people knocking on my door though. and i must say that every since i did the warding around my yard, we rarly get solicitors. Sometimes I can see their uncomfortableness walking up to the door. and iv seen people start to walk up the pathway and turn to walk back down.