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February 1st, 2012, 10:47 PM
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Who was the first person you came out to?
Were you nervous before you told them?
What was their reaction?
Were you relieved after you told them?
How old were you?
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February 7th, 2012, 02:09 PM
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Who was the first person you came out to? My parents
Were you nervous before you told them? Very... so much so that I text them, rather than saying it face to face
What was their reaction? "If you're happy, we're happy for you"
Were you relieved after you told them? Very relieved
How old were you? 25
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February 7th, 2012, 09:17 PM
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Emma, I thought I was the first person you came out to?! ***? LOL

Who was the first person you came out to? I came out to a group of friends.
Were you nervous before you told them? Nope, I wasn't nervous.
What was their reaction? They laughed, and said "It's such a Gracie thing"
Were you relieved after you told them? I was excited, but crushed cuz they thought it was just a Gracie thing, meaning, just a phase...as in, for attention.
How old were you? I was 14
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February 19th, 2012, 07:59 PM
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I honestly don't remember... I tried to make my first girlfriend out of my childhood friend (I was 9), because we liked to experiment as most children do. I guess I thought that it meant something more than it did. I told people online in forums, but that doesn't really count. Finally, when I was 17, I came out to my older sister and told her I was bisexual. I had my first real date with a girl after that. I told my mom a couple months later because she found gay porn on my sister's computer (what can I say, I was really hormonal, LOL).

Out of all those times, telling my mom was the WORST. I tried to pull the whole crying act to lessen her reaction, but she still informed me I was going to go to hell if I didn't change my ways. She even said, "Well, if you're bisexual, why don't you just choose men and ignore the other part?" As if it were that simple.

Telling my sister was the easiest and really relieved me because I finally had someone close to talk to about it. She pretty much suspected it all along.

My other two siblings don't know that I'm aware of, and after my mom's reaction, I pretty much became closeted again except to my friends and husband.
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February 19th, 2012, 08:49 PM
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Krissy, it breaks my heart to hear about your mom not being accepting.
Which is why I haven't told mine!
She's old fashioned, Mexican Catholic. Soooooo, I just avoid the subject altogether with her. I don't really care for her approval, and her blessing doesn't mean anything to me. We don't have the best relationship. I figure it's easier for me to not tell her, because I'd rather not hear what she has to say, and throw GOD in the mix. As I'm not religious.

If I were close to her, I'd rather tell her, and endure the heartbreak of her non-acceptance, ya know? I think I make sense in the way I'm explaining it.

Anyway.
Everyone in my life knows, except for my mom, and my husband's family. And I haven't come out to them, well, because they just really don't need to know. I'm sure they suspect, because I do openly talk about girls and stuff.
And ya.

Hugs. We are here for you! No one else understands what we go through, coming out to others, than us here.
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February 20th, 2012, 06:57 AM
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Yeah, that's why it was so hard telling my mom. We're SUPER close - my whole family is. We've always been huge on keeping close to family members, so in order to not be pushed away, I had to refrain from ever talking about it again, because family time is too important to me. My kids need their grandma, know what I mean? And I need my mom. I wish I had cool parents. If my boys ever tell me they're gay, I'll be extremely supportive.
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February 20th, 2012, 10:01 PM
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I think the first person I came out to was my fiance. But, this was after years of consideration and it hadn't been the first time that I brought up the subject, so it wasn't something that he was surprised about. The first time I talked about my "fear" of liking women when I was super set on being straight, he just calmly listened to my fears and helped try and lead me to the most logical conclusion. So... technically I should have known for years now.

I told a couple of friends, one who happens to be a MTF transgender and the others being bisexual as well, so there were no bad feelings about those outtings. All in all I've had it pretty easy. But, I have no plans to actually tell my family. We're not exactly close and they're all prone to talking crap about each other behind their backs... So, I think I'll just skip that. Even if I end up in a homosexual relationship, I plan on moving out state anyway.
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February 26th, 2012, 10:01 AM
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I somehow managed to come out to my cousins, mom, sisters, friends,..pretty much everyone in one day..I had a sort of mini meltdown because I was caught in between fear of ppl hating me and being happy with the relationship I was in at the time..Honestly I didnt have a single bad reaction..my family completely supports me..I was 26 at the time and was tired of hiding who I really was..It feels so much better knowing I can be myself without ppl judging me..
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March 15th, 2012, 06:48 PM
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Who was the first person you came out to? My mother

Were you nervous before you told them? Ha,well,she caught me with my ex gf,so,no,not nervous because I wasn't exactly planning on telling her

What was their reaction? Freaked.. I was raised in a religious home(Think Duggars)

Were you relieved after you told them? No,I attempted suicide soon after... I guess it's yet another reason I'm estranged from my family now..

How old were you? 16
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