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December 4th, 2013, 07:52 AM
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Has anyone used a known donor? Im tempted to go that route over using frozen sperm just because of all the expenses. But my main concern is it being incredibly awkward? if you used a known donor was it awkward? how did you go about asksing someone?

Also, if you used frozen sperm, were you able to do it home?
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December 8th, 2013, 06:50 PM
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Pardon me (het single mother by choice) for butting in, but I used a known donor and it was one of the best decisions I ever made. It's not awkward at all. My five year old has met his donor and we exchange phone calls and emails the same way we would with any friend of the family. He has even met some of his half siblings and I have other mothers to reassure me about little genetic quirks our kids share through KD.

I'm not a spammer, but if you google "known donor registry" and use a bit of common sense, then you can find out more about another alternative than going through a bank or asking friends and friends of friends.

You don't need a doctor to do the insem, but it's only fair to covor the donor's travel expenses if he's the one doing the travelling.

I tried the "friend of a friend" route first and there is still some awkwardness when I run into potential donors that didn't work out even after all these years and the complete lack of hard feelings on my part.

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December 23rd, 2013, 09:56 AM
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Thanks for your input!! We have enough saved to do a couple months of fronzen but if those doesnt work out i think we're going to go the known donor route.
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February 6th, 2014, 09:28 AM
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DW is really considering the known donor route because she was adopted. The person we have picked is a close friend that has made it known that it us up to use how we introduce the child to him and that he has known for awhile he doesn't want kids of his own. It's important for DW because she is adopted and doesn't know who her biological parents are or if there is any medical history that she needs to be aware of.

I am still on the fence about known vs sperm bank... but I feel like if we have someone willing I should consider it a gift and at least try!
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February 6th, 2014, 11:22 AM
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Ya if someone is willing to do it for you..i say go for it!
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February 25th, 2014, 07:09 PM
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We did debate about known donor vs unknown.. And we just found that we would want our child to put a face to their donor and when the time comes, they can meet them..
It was very awkward! We only met our donor on the day of donation and we were very nervous. We had all the worries about how would it happen and all the questions you could expect.. But it all kind of fell into place.. We had a motel room. We let him in our room, he did his thing then gave us a txt and went back up and he left.
We met him on Free Sperm Donors Worldwide. We discussed what we did and didn't want and emailed for about 4 months before going ahead.. There are some weird ones out there tho!
Good luck for whatever you choose
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February 27th, 2014, 01:42 PM
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oh wow! i didnt not know there was a site out there for that!we were thinking of all the friends we have and it would just be so totally awkward to ask them. i had the idea that we could ask a couple of our gay guy couples to see if they woudl do it and when they were ready we could carry for them but S/O is absolutely against that plan. so knowing about that site really helps! Did you have to get any legal documents drawn up or any sort of thing like that so they wouldnt try and come claim the child a few years down the road?
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March 6th, 2014, 11:55 AM
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We did the unknown/bank route. It was just the best choice for us. There's a lot of legal ickiness in using a known donor or not going through an RE. It's just not something we were interested in risking in the future. Also, our insurance covered EVERYTHING for fertility treatments, injectables, and the IUI. We just had to pay for the vials which was $1200 for 2, including shipping.
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August 1st, 2014, 10:01 AM
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We used a known donor for both of our sons. In my eyes, it was a cheaper and easier route than frozen. Both donors are apart of our lives as uncles and it was truly great to have these men look at us and say, "Sure thing we will help you create your family".
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August 2nd, 2014, 04:44 PM
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My husband and I are going to use the known donor route. We found our donor on facebook, as there are many sites for free sperm donors. We travel to them, pay for everything for the donor if he needs anything at all, get up to date STD, drug tests, etc done before donations are accepted. Known Donor Registry is a really great site to use, too!
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