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March 5th, 2008, 08:06 AM
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I figured this would be the best place I could post this here on JM, especially because I hope to get some opinions from other moms.

I've been 'out' as bisexual for quite a while, but I'm married to (though separated from) a man. My mom was really cool with it and during my teens she absolutely loved meeting my girlfriends, it's always been easy because she has been supportive. I recently left my husband after finding out I was pregnant with baby number two because I just knew I couldn't live a lie any more because I've known for quite a good amount of time that I'm actually gay and not bisexual. I didn't really come to terms with it until I was already married, so I knew I just couldn't be with him. He doesn't know yet, and since we're having a custody battle right now it's not the right time to bring it up (plus oddly enough he's extremely anti-homosexuality...not sure how we ended up together lol). However, I feel compelled to come out as gay to all of my other friends. But it's just so hard. Coming out as bi came pretty easy, everyone was super accepting...but I really feel that it's because bisexuality at this point seems to be much more okay in society's eyes than homosexuality. At least, that's the vibe I get around where I live. So I am absolutely nervous about telling anyone.

So if anyone can or wants to...could you share some of your coming out stories? I just feel like that's something that will help me and reassure me right now (especially the ones that got positive reactions lol).

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March 8th, 2008, 09:55 AM
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Sorry for the delayed reply. I was trying to respond, but my little one kept needing me, so hopefully she will nap for a little while now.

I come from a big family from a small town. Extremely religious and things are suppose to be a certain way. I was a missionary for 5 years. I always new from the time I was little that I never wanted to get married. I could just not see myself tied to a man for my whole life. I battled depression a lot. Then when I was about 25 I left the missionary organization I was with and moved half way across the country to where I didn't know anyone. I started dated women and told my family through email and phone. My mom said she would never come to visit me. I said that was okay she would miss out on a lot. I have been with my wife since 2001. We went to Canada to get married and now have a 16 month old daughter.

My family decided they could love the people, just not the sin. They come to visit now and send Morgan Birthday cards and truly care about her. She is part of the family. I have never hid who I am with anyone. I have always been the type of person, what you see is what you get. Lying get to confusing LOL There are some members of my family that I use to be close with but aren't anymore. It really doesn't bother me. I am happy and since I came out I have not baddled depression like I use to. I think it was because I was trying to live a way that wasn't me, even though I didn't realize it.
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April 2nd, 2008, 04:25 AM
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I'm a preachers daughter to start with. Then tack on the fact that most men in my family are pastors as well (meaning all but two and we have a HUGE family). Let's not forget being raised in the bible belt!

My story is boring because I started dating Val back then, and it was either "love me and accept me for who I am, or don't". I didn't slowly beat around the bush or even announce it to my family. I just... did. At first my family thought it was a phase that I was going through, however, after a few years, they realized it wasn't. My stepdad loves it because he jokes that he can compare women with me (though I prefer butches to his femmes), and he really helped im getting my mom to love and accept me regardless.

Though not everyone in my family approves of it, they accept it. Those who don't just don't come around. Sure that's hard, but when they start quoting the bible, I quote back what God said about judging others. It shuts them up pretty quickly.

All in all, my friends say they always knew. My family (for the most part) is supportive. As dawnly said I'm happy now!
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September 25th, 2017, 02:31 AM
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