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I feel like I've joined every forum on this site...hehehe. I have decided to share this story because I made the mistake of dismissing my instincts and taking what the DR said as gospel and thought I was being paranoid...ALWAYS TRUST YOUR GUT FEELINGS!!
Back in 2004 my DH (we weren't married yet back then) fell pregnant and after the shock of it all we were ecstatic, we were still quite young but we were so devoted to each other we knew everything would be great.
I was about 5 weeks pregnant when I starting experiencing some niggling pains on my lower right hand side and being the paranoid person I was...I did some research and read up about ectopic pregnancies, along with other issues. I honestly didn't think too much about it but I did make an appointment with a DR just to be on the safe side.
Earlier in the day prior to my appointment I was at work and I was speaking with the ladies there and telling them all about this horrible thing called an "ectopic pregnancy". We were all in agreement that it would be just horrible to have to experience anything like that, it would be heartbreaking let alone in some cases life threatening.
Anyway off to the DR I went and I told him about my pains and he said that is was normal for pregnant women to experience small pains. Feeling really paranoid and stupid I went ahead and asked if it could be an ectopic pregnancy... I got the look that says "this women is so silly" and he said "No, your too early in your pregnancy". So feeling like a paranoid fool I went home.
It would of been about 12am that the pains started to escalate and woke me from my sleep they soon got to the point where I could no longer move. DH had already been awake with me and we decided to was time to head to the ER. I was so exhausted but in so much pain that I felt a little delirious.
Once getting to the ER the pain had subsided a lot but was still there. I was advised that I needed to have an u/s but in the mean time they would get me some pain killers as it may be a little while so I sent DH home to sort things out for the day and told him to come back ASAP.
I was all alone in my little cubicle and that's when it happened...the tube ruptured the pain was excruciating I nearly fainted..at the time I had no idea what it was, finally they gave me some pain relief and I drifted off...I woke up as they were pushing me into U/S (my DH was still not back yet)....
The ER staff all knew I was pregnant, that I had pain, I had mentioned that I went to the DR and he said it's NOT an ectopic but no one would tell me ANYTHING. They just listened, gave me so many internals I felt like a Christmas turkey getting stuffed and wrote notes...
During the U/S the lady didn't say a word...nothing. I tried to ask questions about what she was looking for...just grunts.."can you see the baby"... more grunting! I was so confused, disoriented and alone I didn't know what to do... After a lot more prodding and ANOTHER internal U/S a doctor (I hadn't seen before) came in and said "It's not that bad, my sister in law had an ectopic a few months back and she's pregnant again"...I was like.."what are talking about?" "what do you mean ectopic" NO ONE HAD SAID ANYTHING TO ME AND THEN THEY COME IN LIKE I KNEW WHAT WAS WRONG!
It took a while for it to settle in...I was taken back to my cubicle and told that I was being transferred to another hospital because I needed emergency surgery! Thank godness DH walked in at that point..I was just about to lose my mind!!
In hindsight...thank goodness I was transferred! The new hospital was fantastic...they filled me in on what was happening straight away.
1. Yes, it was an ectopic
2. My tube ruptured
3. I had internal bleeding and needed emergency surgery
All of this in less the 24 hrs..AFTER i thought I was fine and was just paranoid!!
After the surgery the DR's informed me that I had bleed about 1.5 litres of blood internally and had required a blood transfusion (this is why I also donate blood!).
This was such a life changing experience (obviously one I wish I needed have)...
Firstly ALWAYS trust how I feel...DR'S DON'T know everything! Secondly...I am one strong women...
I am very lucky as I have since had a little girl who is nearly 2 and I had no issues falling pregnant with her. We are ttc # 2 and our first month was last month and I fell straight away but unfortunately M/C last week. The only positive from that was that I DID fall pregnant straight away...even with my ONE tube.
We are hoping TC again shortly...fingers crossed.
Thank you Heather mom2*Lauryn*Jacob* for the most gorgeous siggy!!