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August 23rd, 2006, 11:52 AM
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Well I guess I will be the first.

I got my bfp the day before New Years. Went in to have it confirmed soon after. The first month went by fine. Nothing actually happened until my dd's birthday party. I picked up alot of kids, and was running around the whole time. The next morning I discovered I was bleeding, and was having some sharp pains. Went to the ER, and was told that as far as the dr could tell nothing was wrong. I was given a follow up though and at 7 weeks and 4 days I had an ultrasound. At that time Jamie was developing fine, and there was a heartbeat.

After the appointment I started bleeding. It wasn't really bad and the dr had told me that I should expect it. Took it easy the rest of the day and by the night it had stopped. Next day we went out and walked around a small town here. Felt fine, but that night I had a some spotting. Took it easy the next day, but something felt funny. The bleeding had stopped, but I was starting to get a pain in my right side. The next morning I woke up and I hurt so bad. I could barely walk out to the car and my dh had to drive me to the hospital.

We were there for 4 hours before we got an u/s. The dr didn't really think I was in as much pain as I was. During the u/s the tech made sure we couldn't see, then called emergency over the phone. The OR dr showed up, and then the one who admitted me. I was taken back to a room where they tried to get a IV in. The OR dr had to track me down and then I was taken into surgery. I know that he told us it was ectopic, but I was going into shock by that time so I don't remember much.

I was awake the whole surgery, but I only remember little things. And then I was in the recovery room. The OR dr came in and told me what had happened. I had ruptured sometime during the night. The only reason I didn't bleed to death was because Jamie had wedged in there and stopped some of the bleeding. I was very lucky to be alive, but the dr had to take all of my right tube and a very small part of my uterus. There was a good chance I would always be anemic. There wasn't enough left of Jamie to tell what the sex was.

I spent 3 days in the hospital. I was supposed to be there longer, but I recovered fast. The first week at home I hurt even with my meds. I wasn't able to hold my dd, I could barely make it to the bathroom. That first week at home I don't think I cried once.

The next week I was able to do more, and thats when I first realized I had lost my baby. I was 8 weeks the day I had the surgery, and I continued to look pregnant for about a month. The physical recovery took about a full month, but at the end of it I was told I wasn't anemic anymore.

The emotional side of it is still something I deal with. It's gotten easier, and I am glad I got to see Jamie at least once. I had alot of guilt over how Jamie died. There are still alot of things that make me and my dh sad. Especially because Jamie's due date is coming up. Its been very hard for my dh. It took him a long time to deal with almost losing me. He knows that I shouldn't of woken up that morning. He still has a hard time with that, and he's still so sad over losing Jamie.

I don't think I could of made it through if it wasn't for this forum and the wonderfull women in it! Thanks!
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September 1st, 2006, 01:20 PM
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I will be happy to share my experience, hopefully, it will help someone else.

My husband and I had been ttc for about a year when I was diagnosed with PCOS. My doctor put me on metformin and within a month I was pregnant. My friends and I were on a cruise when I started to feel sick but thought that it was sea sickness.
About two weeks after the cruise, I had what I thought was a normal period. It was a week or two late but that is quite normal for me. The period lasted for 5 days but I continued to spot for another ten days. My husband asked me to take a pregnancy test but I refused thinking that I got my period two weeks earlier. I finally took the test and it came up positive. I immediately called my doctor knowing that I had been spotting and that was not normal. My doctor sent me for blood work and confirmed I was indeed pregnant.

The spotting continued for another week followed by light cramping. I saw my doctor and again she took blood and confirmed that my hormone numbers were low but still rising. A few days later I knew that I had lost the baby when I could no longer feel that feeling of having someone next to you. I don't know how to explain it but I suddenly felt empty.

The cramping increased and the bleeding stopped. THe next week, 10-12 weeks into the pregnancy, I saw my doctor again and she said that the hormone numbers stabilized and that the pregnancy was not viable. I continued to tell her that I was cramping and worried about an ectopic and she agreed to do an ultrasound. The ultrasound tech saw that my uterus was empty and located the fetus without a heartbeat. I also had a 9 cm cyst on my ovary. Another doctor, not my OBGYN, came in and said with a grin on her face "well, looks like someone is having surgery today." That is the first that I heard that I had an ectopic.

I was scheduled for surgery right away and after several delays, had surgery. My fallopian tube was removed and the cyst drained. The physical recovery was quick and unevental.

I was unprepared for the emotions that followed and still persist today. It has only been about 4 months but I often think about how far along I would have been and what my life would have been like if my baby survived. The emotions do get easier with time but it will always be a sensitive difficult subject for me. I am truly sorry for all the ladies who might be going through this.
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September 9th, 2006, 03:22 PM
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Hi ladies,
I just got out of the hospital yesterday. I found out I had an ectopic pregnancy. Seeing both your stories, I am pretty lucky my midwife was on top of things. Almost a day after I found out I was pregnant, I started spotting. My midwife sent me for blood tests and the first two levels were normal. I was having slight cramping but no pain. My third level only went up slightly so she scheduled me for a u/s which was supposed to happen next wednesday. Thursday afternoon the cramping got worse so she told me to go to the ER. After waiting 4 hours, I had an u/s and there was no sack in the uterus. THey could not detech a heartbeat and siad they baby seemed very small. They told ma and my dh to prepare for surgery that night. At the same time a women one bed over was experiencing an ectopic pregnancy as well and ruptured so they took her into surgery, Early the next morning I was taken for another u/s and it basically confirmed with the ER doc thought. Luckily the am doc decided I was early enough in the pregnancy to take a medication that basiclly assits the body in miscarring. So at least I was spared the surgery and losing my tube. It has been exhausting and I don't think the full impact has set in yet.
I am so sorry for both of your losses. It is a really difficult thing to experience. My thoughts are with both of you.
Jennie
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September 12th, 2006, 11:34 AM
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I will share my experience .... maybe it too will help someone one day.

It was about 8 1/2 years ago. I knew I was pregnant, no morning sickness & didn't really feel pregnant. At roughly 7 weeks this is what happened. I was driving to work, when all of a sudden (one minute I was fine the next not) I felt a horrible pain in my lower abdomen. I made it to work, but felt alot of pain & weak. My coworkers told me I looked awful & told me to go home. I drove the 1/2 hour home, I had to undo my pants as I drove. At first I thought it was just stomach flu. WhenI got home I realized it was more than that .... I could barely stand. My mother came & rushed me to the local hospital, there they had to elevate my legs - I remember them saying I was going into shock. From there they transported me via ambulance to the hospital in the city. I had emergency surgery, where by going through my belly button & two other little incisions, they removed my ruptured tube & over two liters of blood etc. I took me over a week to recover & my belly was black from bruising.
I am happy to let you all know though that I went on 17months ago to give birth to my healthy son.

Good luck to all that have experienced this & want to have more babies .... it can happen!
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October 4th, 2006, 07:12 AM
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On july 6th i lost my dear sweet angel. the fist 7.3 weeks were great . everything was fine. we were happy. then on july 5th i started bleeding the doctors said to wait so i did. the next day july 6th i clump of tissue fell outta me. so i went to the er. they did an internal us and found my baby in my left tube. i called my soon to be ex hubby and he didnt care he yelled at me. he said why are you bothering me so what. my neighbor elaine was there with me. the speacialist came in and he was rude. i was upset crying my eyes out he said well you can stop now your not bringing your baby into the world, consider your baby gone. then he said well the baby isnt in the tube thats a tumor. well i saw the us so did the nurse she argued with him. he wanted to leave me like i was i was given the choice to go home like the doctor said or have the surgery . i thought for a few minutes and decided to have the surgery. the doctor wasnt happy. but i am so thankful i went againt him. when i woke up after surgery i was alone dianne was there she had come to be with me elaine. dianne is a very dear friend to me she is like a mother. but that didnt replace the fact that the father of my baby wasnt there. he didnt even call to see how i was. he was a husband what a pos. anyhow the next day the doctor came into my room and appologized to me . It was in fact my baby that was in my tube and the reason i was bleeding so hard was my tube was starting to burst. if i had listened to him the nurse said i would have bled to death. now i have only 1 tube my right tube and i am so afraid that i wont be able to have anymore children. my sister and i were both preg together . she was farther along then me she is almost 7 mnths along and its a boy im so happy for her but yet i hate myself for my baby dying. i am her mother im suppost to protect her and i didnt. my wounds have healed on the outside but not the inside they are fresh and sore. i see the scars they are there and remind me everyday that i lost part of my life and heart on july 6th.
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Well I guess I will be the first.

I got my bfp the day before New Years. Went in to have it confirmed soon after. The first month went by fine. Nothing actually happened until my dd's birthday party. I picked up alot of kids, and was running around the whole time. The next morning I discovered I was bleeding, and was having some sharp pains. Went to the ER, and was told that as far as the dr could tell nothing was wrong. I was given a follow up though and at 7 weeks and 4 days I had an ultrasound. At that time Jamie was developing fine, and there was a heartbeat.

After the appointment I started bleeding. It wasn't really bad and the dr had told me that I should expect it. Took it easy the rest of the day and by the night it had stopped. Next day we went out and walked around a small town here. Felt fine, but that night I had a some spotting. Took it easy the next day, but something felt funny. The bleeding had stopped, but I was starting to get a pain in my right side. The next morning I woke up and I hurt so bad. I could barely walk out to the car and my dh had to drive me to the hospital.

We were there for 4 hours before we got an u/s. The dr didn't really think I was in as much pain as I was. During the u/s the tech made sure we couldn't see, then called emergency over the phone. The OR dr showed up, and then the one who admitted me. I was taken back to a room where they tried to get a IV in. The OR dr had to track me down and then I was taken into surgery. I know that he told us it was ectopic, but I was going into shock by that time so I don't remember much.

I was awake the whole surgery, but I only remember little things. And then I was in the recovery room. The OR dr came in and told me what had happened. I had ruptured sometime during the night. The only reason I didn't bleed to death was because Jamie had wedged in there and stopped some of the bleeding. I was very lucky to be alive, but the dr had to take all of my right tube and a very small part of my uterus. There was a good chance I would always be anemic. There wasn't enough left of Jamie to tell what the sex was.

I spent 3 days in the hospital. I was supposed to be there longer, but I recovered fast. The first week at home I hurt even with my meds. I wasn't able to hold my dd, I could barely make it to the bathroom. That first week at home I don't think I cried once.

The next week I was able to do more, and thats when I first realized I had lost my baby. I was 8 weeks the day I had the surgery, and I continued to look pregnant for about a month. The physical recovery took about a full month, but at the end of it I was told I wasn't anemic anymore.

The emotional side of it is still something I deal with. It's gotten easier, and I am glad I got to see Jamie at least once. I had alot of guilt over how Jamie died. There are still alot of things that make me and my dh sad. Especially because Jamie's due date is coming up. Its been very hard for my dh. It took him a long time to deal with almost losing me. He knows that I shouldn't of woken up that morning. He still has a hard time with that, and he's still so sad over losing Jamie.

I don't think I could of made it through if it wasn't for this forum and the wonderfull women in it! Thanks![/b]

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Well I guess I will be the first.

I got my bfp the day before New Years. Went in to have it confirmed soon after. The first month went by fine. Nothing actually happened until my dd's birthday party. I picked up alot of kids, and was running around the whole time. The next morning I discovered I was bleeding, and was having some sharp pains. Went to the ER, and was told that as far as the dr could tell nothing was wrong. I was given a follow up though and at 7 weeks and 4 days I had an ultrasound. At that time Jamie was developing fine, and there was a heartbeat.

After the appointment I started bleeding. It wasn't really bad and the dr had told me that I should expect it. Took it easy the rest of the day and by the night it had stopped. Next day we went out and walked around a small town here. Felt fine, but that night I had a some spotting. Took it easy the next day, but something felt funny. The bleeding had stopped, but I was starting to get a pain in my right side. The next morning I woke up and I hurt so bad. I could barely walk out to the car and my dh had to drive me to the hospital.

We were there for 4 hours before we got an u/s. The dr didn't really think I was in as much pain as I was. During the u/s the tech made sure we couldn't see, then called emergency over the phone. The OR dr showed up, and then the one who admitted me. I was taken back to a room where they tried to get a IV in. The OR dr had to track me down and then I was taken into surgery. I know that he told us it was ectopic, but I was going into shock by that time so I don't remember much.

I was awake the whole surgery, but I only remember little things. And then I was in the recovery room. The OR dr came in and told me what had happened. I had ruptured sometime during the night. The only reason I didn't bleed to death was because Jamie had wedged in there and stopped some of the bleeding. I was very lucky to be alive, but the dr had to take all of my right tube and a very small part of my uterus. There was a good chance I would always be anemic. There wasn't enough left of Jamie to tell what the sex was.

I spent 3 days in the hospital. I was supposed to be there longer, but I recovered fast. The first week at home I hurt even with my meds. I wasn't able to hold my dd, I could barely make it to the bathroom. That first week at home I don't think I cried once.

The next week I was able to do more, and thats when I first realized I had lost my baby. I was 8 weeks the day I had the surgery, and I continued to look pregnant for about a month. The physical recovery took about a full month, but at the end of it I was told I wasn't anemic anymore.

The emotional side of it is still something I deal with. It's gotten easier, and I am glad I got to see Jamie at least once. I had alot of guilt over how Jamie died. There are still alot of things that make me and my dh sad. Especially because Jamie's due date is coming up. Its been very hard for my dh. It took him a long time to deal with almost losing me. He knows that I shouldn't of woken up that morning. He still has a hard time with that, and he's still so sad over losing Jamie.

I don't think I could of made it through if it wasn't for this forum and the wonderfull women in it! Thanks![/b]
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October 27th, 2006, 11:50 AM
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I guess I'll be the next on here to tell my story.......
Me and my boyfriend had been ttc #2 in feb of 2006 and on march the 16th i took a clearblue easy digital test and instantly in came up pregnant, oh was i happy. But deciede that i would take another the next morning on the 17th and behold it was still saying pregnant so i was on cloud nine that i was pregnant with number two. So i waited until sunday to call my mom to tell her i was pregnant she was happy and so was my boyfriends parents. I went in that monday(the 20th) to the ob to confirm and i was 6 wks pregnant by last period. So i went on about my business that week and was just soo happy. So my son's birthday was that friday(24th) he was turing two. We was getting ready for his party for saturday. So it went on......Saturday came and went bout our day and then at his birthday party i started getting really bad sharp pains in my side. and could barely walk and everyone just told me that it must have been my uterus streching. so i said okay we went home and i went and soaked in the tub for an hour and felt fine until i got out of the tub and went to bed. I got up around midnight to go and pee and i could barely walk but once i got there there was blood and still the sharp pains. So i woke up my boyfriend and went to the ER. I was in horrible pain on the way they there. We got there about one. didn't see a doctor until about two and then another four hours before i seen an ob on call then i had two u/s's done. And they couldn't find the baby but they said i may have not been has far as what they thought. So i was admitted to the hospital and stayed over night. then sunday i had two more u/s's done and still no baby. Pain was easing up and really no more blood, the doctors was okay with it so they sent me home. I went to stay at my moms so i could have help with my two year old while my b/f was at work. Monday came around i was back at the doctors, blood work done-levels going up, no bleeding, and barely any pain. Tuesday back at doctors, bleeding started again and pain coming back. Wednesday, bleeding heavily, pain done came back and was passing clots. Thursday i was back at the doctors got more blood work done, sent to the hospital for two more u/s's and still no baby. So after the blood results came back and my levels went down and the doctor had said it was ectopic pregnancy and it was either surgery or a shot, but he said that my body was doing a good enough job of miscarring that i didn't need either. so i went back a week later and had blood work done and everything and my levels had went down and the doctor said i was very luck that i didn't need surgery or the shot. I didn't see my self very lucky because i just lost my baby, i mean how can that be lucky, you know? But i still get depressed and down, especially now that my edd is coming up and there will be no baby. Though i can't let myself get too down because i have a two year old i have to take care of. But that's my story.
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October 28th, 2006, 05:41 PM
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I am terribly sorry for your loss & wish you didn't have to post your story here. Please feel free to come into the main board at any time & introduce yourself. We have great women here willing to help you through anything!
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