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November 23rd, 2008, 09:08 AM
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I don't know if it's just me or what, but I do worry that my girls will struggle with weight like I did in high school and after high school. Even though they are only 1 and 3, I often find myself comparing their weights to other kids their ages to see how they compare....even though I KNOW neither of them is overweight. In fact, they are both pretty small for their age.
But still, I just think a big fear of mine is them having to struggle with weight. I just don't want them going through that, especially being girls, because I know what it's like to hate the way you look and to wish that you looked like someone else, etc.....I don't want them to go through that. I try real hard to teach them good eating habits now and I never MAKE them eat like some parents do, etc.
But my DH is one of those kinds of people who can eat a whole pizza and lose a pound, so at least they have his genes too, which is a good thing...maybe they'll have his metabolism instead of mine. But yeah, I do worry about it. Am I the only one?
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November 23rd, 2008, 09:48 AM
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I dont have kids (yet) but I already have strong ideas on how I want to raise them in terms of food and Body image etc. Im aiming for mostly healthy and fresh eating (ok I guess what parent doesnt) even though I quite often complain to DF that I hate my tummy, legs etc etc etc Im going to not try to convey that image to my children, I feel that they pick up on these things. I remember watching a programme about kids who are dieting and I mean KIDS, these children werent even big and were as young as 7/8. One of the girls felt she 'was fat' etc and believed this was the norm in a sense because her mum was always talking about dieting, needing to lose weight, feeling to fat in clothes. She didnt know any different.I guess why would she know any different, her mum is her major role model. I know Ill probably never be fully happy with myself but I will try my best to install a positive healthy body image attitude in my children.
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November 23rd, 2008, 09:51 AM
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No I don't worry about it. But I've raised my kids in a health consious environment. I stress how food is fuel and we need fuel to be active and activity leads to good health, strong heart, etc. I don't worry about weight and therefore they've learned a healthy lifestyle without thought of weight.
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November 23rd, 2008, 11:28 AM
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No I don't worry about it.. I do worry about instilling healthy eating habits though..
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November 23rd, 2008, 12:15 PM
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I worry about it too Jamie.

My mom was overly obessed with weight and appearance, still is to some point but I dont have to live with her anymore to hear about how fat I am on a day to day basis. I know she means well and all, but really, I hate my body as is don't need anyone else making me feel like sh*t about it too.

I vowed not to be like that with my kids and instead I make it a point not to say things like

- I hate my body.
- Ughh.. i'm ugly and disgusting.
- I hate exercising.
- I'm sooo fat.

in front of the kids. It's funny how your kids at this age adore you and to them you are the more beautiful thing they know. I love that. When my daughter comes up to me and says .. Mommy you are beautiful, it just melts my heart.

Like I said.. I had started exercising not last month, but the month before and when my daughter saw me working out she came up to me and said... "Mommy, whatcha doing?"

I told her I'm exercising. Then, like always, she says.. Why?

I said.. to get healthy and have more energy to play with you guys. She looked at me a bit confused (which is understandable, cuz what kid at age 3 knows what enegry is.. lol ) .. but then after a little while.. she comes back and says... I want to exercise too ! So I asked her, why? and she says... So I can be strong like mommy. She knew enough to draw that conclusion all by herself.

Wait.. i know there was a point i was trying to get at.. but now it escaped me.. lol

Oh yeah, I went off on a tanget.. but to sum up what i was trying to tell you... I think that as long as our kids see us eating the right stuff, and yes, we can have ice cream and cookies from time to time (just dont make it seem like a sin cuz then they'll want it even more).. and they see us exercising, they'll draw their own conclusions.. some of them might be right on.. and some conclusions might be off.. but that's why you are there.. to explain to her and teach her how to be healthy.
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November 23rd, 2008, 01:02 PM
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Yes, I do worry about it. I have 2 children that already are struggling with their weight. Their doctors get on me about it when I visit. My dh's family most of them are obese or morbidly obese (although dh is at his ideal weight). I have finally dug in and started working on changing my family's diet whether they like it or not. I know how to cook healthy and grew up eating healthy, but my kids have had some bad habits that I am trying to break. Diet isn't as big of an issue in our house as exercise. I am mostly struggling with getting my kids more active. Because Michigan is so darn cold we don't go outside enough. I don't know the best way to get them more active without me having to drive all over like a crazy person. I do have 3 of my kids in gymnastics and one in Irish dance so that helps, but I have 1 that isn't doing anything for exercise and even with the other ones that is only one day a week which is not enough. I want exercise to be something they enjoy so I am finding this part really challenging.
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