[SpazTaz]

Does anyone ever feel alone with friends/family on trying to work out and cutting out eating out and eating healthier and stuff?

Just a bad day in that regard I guess. My friend that I thought got it doesn't seem to when it comes to eating out and it's aggravating me.

[MaddiesMama]

I'm an island here. Everywhere I go with people, there's food involved and LOTS of it. I'm one of just 2 or 3 people I know who works out regularly and makes it a priority. It's depressing. Just once I'd like to be able to go to something and not have to bring a dish that no one will eat that I'll have to take back home and throw in the garbage.

[SpazTaz]

Yeah, my friend who was working out "with" me (we emailed back and forth) has kinda stopped and has now eaten out 5 nights in a row. She offered to take me out for my b-day, since my hubby works, which is very nice, but hubby and I are going to go out Saturday to celebrate and I told her I just couldn't go out both nights. She said she was paying since it was my b-day but I explained it wasn't the money, it was my health I just couldn't do it health wise. I think she thinks I'm nuts. But she's one that feels she "deserves" to eat out when she wants to. If I had a nickel for everytime someone told me I "deserved" to eat out I could retire. But I deserve to be healthy too and my son deserves to have me around for a long time.

It just stinks 'cause I really thought she got it, but now it's turned and it's like well we're all going to die anyway. Yeah but I'm only 29 years old! I don't want to die when I'm 40!

Weirdly enough, my boss really seems to get it and is really supportive. She doesn't ask me if I want anything if she goes out to eat, which I at first was offended by, until I realized, she was doing that so I didn't have to feel uncomfortable saying no. And the day I forgot a lunch by accident, she offered to go to Subway since it wasn't as bad as fast food because she knew I had ot eat something. It's still high in carbs for me but it was better than fast food.

Seems like many people think that I'm absolutely insane for wanting to take care of myself and get my cholesterol and blood sugar and weight into healthy ranges and keep them there.

[MaddiesMama]

I completely understand. I've gone to dinner with friends and then opted to not eat anything because it wasn't the kind of place where I could get a healthy meal, but I just wanted to socialize with them. They think I am so weird for that. Or we'll go to a pizza place to eat and I'll order a salad while they scarf down their pizza and they always make fun of me (good-naturedly, but still). It really stinks because I miss out on a lot of opportunities to socialize because a lot of times people won't invite me because they know I won't eat or have coffee or tea or whatever it is they're going out for. I can still go, I just won't eat/drink/whatever, but they don't really seem to get it. I actually do have one friend who is making real, long-term changes and is starting to run 5ks and stuff, but we don't get the opportunity to get together much since we're on different schedules.

[SpazTaz]

And where I don't typically care what people think, I think I'm just tired of being poked fun at ya know? Like comments from people of "oh I could never be diabetic I'd die". well really? 'Cause this isn't what I chose, but it is what it is and if I don't change then yeah I WILL die and where you can SAY that saying it and having it be reality are 2 separate things.

Guess I just wish sometimes we could go back to the "old days" where eating out was a HUGE treat and not the normal thing to do. I think next time instead of going out to eat with my friend, I'll opt to eat at home and we can go bowling instead. Will probably spend around the same amount of money, but no eating out plus it's a bit of partial exercise anyway