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June 26th, 2009, 08:51 AM
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Hi, I've been lurking here for a while, and I've posted a few questions before off and on. My oldest is going to be 4 next month and I definitely plan on homeschooling but I'm worried that I won't teach him the right things for his age. Right now, he can count to 15 with a little help and to 20 with more help. He knows almost all his ABCs and he's trying to write his letters. I don't want to officially start "kindergarten" until he is 5. I wasn't planning on buying any curriculum books, I did buy a book that tells me how to design my own curriculum. I also want to base my curriculum around his interest so I can maintain his attention on the subjects he's learning. These are currently the books I'm reading about homeschooling:

Home Learning Year by Year: How to Design a Homeschooling Curriculum from Preschool Through High School - Rebecca Rupp

The Homeschooling Handbook - Mary Griffith

Homeschooling: The Early Years - Linda Dobson

I've told my mother in law and my sister in law that we were planning on homeschooling. My mother in law doesn't seem too hip on it, but she's not the type to interfere. My sister in law seems to be on the bandwagon, but she's concerned about social skills. I don't know how to respond except that my children are getting social skills by communicating with us. By having conversations with us. In life, you socialize with people of all ages, not specifically with people your own age like they have in a traditional schooling system. I have NOT discussed this with my own parents because I know that they are going to tell me that I'm wrong for doing it, that public schooling will be the best for them so they can have friends and be with children their own age. I have discussed that I was "possibly" going to homeschool with my grandmother. She thinks it's fine, but again, the topic of socialism came up. She thinks that public school is important because they learn to take turns and get along with other kids their age. My arguement to that is that they learn to take turns with siblings, and they will have to learn to get along with others of all ages because that's what life is like once the schooling part has passed. She disagrees. All my life, I never wanted to disappoint my parents. Since having my boys, I know that I parent them completely opposite from how my parents parented my brother and myself. My parents were very "my way or the highway", CIO, spanking, inconsistant parents. I'm more "let's find a common ground", non-CIO, non spanking, consistant. Everything I have chosen to do, they mock and tell me I'm too soft with the boys. So I fear telling them that this is what I'm doing. I can already hear the "You're not going to be good at this"; "you're robbing them of a proper education"; "they're going to be the dumbest kids"; "you don't have a teaching degree, you don't know how to be a teacher", etc. So I almost want to do it without telling them. I almost feel like I have to ask for their permission to raise my kids the way I want. I've never been a confident person because they used to beat me down.....and that's why I want to homeschool my kids (among other reasons) and I feel like I'm doing the wrong thing because this is something I want to do. I've wanted to homeschool my children since I was 13 years old. So, this is something I've thought long and hard over. My DH and I have spent a lot of late nights weighing the pros and cons of homeschooling and came to a mutual agreement that this is the best thing for our children. How do I handle the disappointment and critisim from my parents??? How do I homeschool my babies knowing they don't approve??? Sorry this is so long, if you make it through, thank you for taking the time to read it!
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June 26th, 2009, 09:22 AM
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As time goes on my parents are more open to talking about what he's doing. Though my mom says things like "Don't make him into a nerd." We do the we don't bring it up until you do. I know they have no idea what is going on here.
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June 26th, 2009, 09:38 AM
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SO, should I not bring the subject up unless they ask if when I'm going to put him in school?? I don't know how to approach them with the subject. I'm wish I could just avoid it altogether!!
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June 26th, 2009, 10:25 AM
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Mostly, I'd ignore them. Don't bring it up and don't worry about it. If they ask, say "This is our decision for our children. Thank you for your concern. Now, please pass the bean dip." (in other words, change the subject)
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June 26th, 2009, 11:15 AM
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Okay, thanks ladies!!
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June 26th, 2009, 12:13 PM
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I agree with Butter. Just don't tell them. You don't have to report to them. You and your DH have made this great decision and they don't need to have anything to do with it. Honestly in time when they see how great your kids are doing with homeschooling, they will probably come around. Until then, I would just ignore them, change the subject, etc.
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June 26th, 2009, 12:35 PM
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Eventually they will ask. You can use the excuse that they are not attending school until (age they make you register) because you wouldn't register to home school until that age. Doesn't mean your not homeschooling just means you don't have to jump through extra hoops. Also you'll have 2-3 years to get comfortable with homeschooling before telling them that you are homeschooling.
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June 26th, 2009, 12:41 PM
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June 26th, 2009, 01:21 PM
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I agree... don't bring it up, change the conversation if necessary, etc. Also, brag on your kids every chance you get. Some in my family are starting to lighten up a little bit because they see how much Ben's learning at home already. Do you have a blog? Perhaps it would help if you blog each day about what you did that day, what lesson was learned, what field trip was taken, and so on. They'll feel involved without having the opportunity to really butt in.
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June 26th, 2009, 02:51 PM
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Oh, the blog is a great idea!!! I think I'll start with that first! Thank you so much ladies!!! You're all so awesome!!!
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Baby #4 - Went to Heaven on 1.20.14
Proud Christian, Jesus Loving,Extended Breastfeeding, Co-sleeping, Babywearing, Cloth Diapering, Non-Vaxing, Homeschooling Mama!
I choose to Homeschool so I can give my children a Godly foundation, So they know His word and His truths!
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June 26th, 2009, 09:13 PM
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I am going to start a Blog so that my family members can see what there doing and learning. I will have the same problem with my in laws. My family is very supportive but my husbands parents will probably totally disagree. I have kinda mention it before and they had brought up the socialization thing. My daughter has Selective Mutism so they will think I am running her for life I am sure. They are just not educated enough on the issue and have no clue what they are talking about. Our first official year is this year and I really dred telling them she isnt going to PS this year. When we see them the next time I am sure she will ask my daughter if she is ready to go back to school and then I will be telling them she is doing homeschool this year. That should be fun but I will just try and change the subject after I explain how socialization isnt going to be a problem. Really I shouldnt feel obligated to give her a report. Hopefully she can keep her thoughts to herself.
I think they will come around after they see what she does and learns and the field trips and groups she will be involved with.

Just try not to let others get to you on this issue. Just know you are doing the right thing and its not anyones choice but yours.

Happy homeschooling!!!
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June 27th, 2009, 09:23 PM
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They will see through the years that you have done a grand job. They may even say so. My family has come full circle.

If you don't raise your children the way you want, you will regret it, not them.

Have fun! But only tell other homeschool mamas about the bad days! Only tell good things to your parents. They would just say, see I told you so.
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June 28th, 2009, 06:05 AM
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I don't have any real advice for you but the other ladies seem to have covered the subject well. I just wanted to you & say It sounds like you are in a tough situation!
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June 29th, 2009, 10:57 AM
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Thanks again Ladies!!! This helped a lot!! I feel more confident that I'm doing the best for them!!
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Proud Christian, Jesus Loving,Extended Breastfeeding, Co-sleeping, Babywearing, Cloth Diapering, Non-Vaxing, Homeschooling Mama!
I choose to Homeschool so I can give my children a Godly foundation, So they know His word and His truths!
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July 1st, 2009, 12:18 PM
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I don't have any real advice for you but the other ladies seem to have covered the subject well. I just wanted to you & say It sounds like you are in a tough situation!

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