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  #1  
February 21st, 2010, 07:28 PM
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What do you think of your parenting style? Is it AP, TP, or a mix?
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February 21st, 2010, 08:41 PM
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I consider myself untraditional but not an 'attachment parenting' person either, lol.

We aim for minimal spankings/corporal discipline, generally don't do those things that are expected 'traditionally (such as having a child clean their plate before allowing dessert... I serve dessert WITH the meal half the time, lol!)... but at the same time, I don't wear my child all the time, refuse to use a pacifier at all, and all that. Maybe I'm a mix of both? I like the use of reality discipline, which is in a way traditional, but to most who are traditional parents it seems rather unconventional, soo... :-/ I don't know!
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February 21st, 2010, 10:50 PM
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hahaha what a question! In relation to how fast I've (what's the right word/phrase here?) come to know the JM community, it took me forever to decide which of these two boards to poke my head into.

To be honest, I've NEVER really thought of myself as an AP parent. Never.

But if the definition of traditional includes what was on the intro list in the TP board - formula feeding, disposable diapering, CIO for infants, always vaccinating, public schooling - that's not us. At all.

But a lot of the AP folks believe in a totally different disciplining method for their children. They don't spank, or yell, or... do the things I consider... well, discipline. LOL


And the reasons we do things - breastfeeding, CDing, baby wearing, etc - are not the same as most of those on the AP board. CDing is good for the environment, sure. I'm doing it because it's cheaper. Baby wearing seems to be about the baby not having to be away from mom for them; for me it's about keeping the peace and still being able to get things done - and not needing an additional grocery basket just for the baby. Breastfeeding? Okay, I do that because I feel it's best. It's also easier - and cheaper! But I don't do the whole nurse-in protest thing, and haven't ever nursed beyond 2 years of age. I don't like the idea of the kiddo possibly remembering it....



So which am I? Who knows. I'm an oddball in both cities.

I do feel more at ease in the AP board though. I think that may partly be because most of the women there have infants, and so the conversation seldom turns to discipline. And I've already decided that if it does in a particular thread or whatever, I'll just sit that one out.


I'm not an Attachment parent OR a Traditional parent. I'm a Christian, God-loving, God-respecting, God-seeking parent who is determined to do what is best - in God's eyes - for my children. That has led me to be frugal, protective, and strict. Who cares about a label?


(And, oops! Sorry! Totally didn't mean that to turn into a rant! Moving away from the podium now....)
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February 22nd, 2010, 12:18 PM
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Definately not AP. I did a test once and it said I was middle of the road LOL.

I mainly am a mom that listens to my instinct and also I watch and go with the flow of my childs needs and knowledge,etc. I dont buy into the research and experts things because they change often enough I dont wanna follow their advice and find out in 2 yrs I did it wrong and feel like a creep or horrible mother LOL.

I call it heart led parenting...sometimes that means a swat on the bum and sometimes that means carrying them in a sling(when they were small) and sometimes it means hovering a bit and other times it means giving them wide spaces.

Hope that made sense LOL.
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February 22nd, 2010, 02:03 PM
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I'm an AP parent.
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February 22nd, 2010, 09:08 PM
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I'm also a middle of the road. I do a little bit of everything once in a while. I just do whatever feels right at the time, and I do it for reasons different than the norm usually as well.
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February 23rd, 2010, 05:54 PM
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I don't subscribe to either.

I think dalynnrmc might be my soul sister. .. and the fact that I see her on every forum I either visit or lurk in makes me think so even more ... or ... she's stalking me.
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February 23rd, 2010, 07:58 PM
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hahaha what a question! In relation to how fast I've (what's the right word/phrase here?) come to know the JM community, it took me forever to decide which of these two boards to poke my head into.

To be honest, I've NEVER really thought of myself as an AP parent. Never.

But if the definition of traditional includes what was on the intro list in the TP board - formula feeding, disposable diapering, CIO for infants, always vaccinating, public schooling - that's not us. At all.

But a lot of the AP folks believe in a totally different disciplining method for their children. They don't spank, or yell, or... do the things I consider... well, discipline. LOL


And the reasons we do things - breastfeeding, CDing, baby wearing, etc - are not the same as most of those on the AP board. CDing is good for the environment, sure. I'm doing it because it's cheaper. Baby wearing seems to be about the baby not having to be away from mom for them; for me it's about keeping the peace and still being able to get things done - and not needing an additional grocery basket just for the baby. Breastfeeding? Okay, I do that because I feel it's best. It's also easier - and cheaper! But I don't do the whole nurse-in protest thing, and haven't ever nursed beyond 2 years of age. I don't like the idea of the kiddo possibly remembering it....



So which am I? Who knows. I'm an oddball in both cities.

I do feel more at ease in the AP board though. I think that may partly be because most of the women there have infants, and so the conversation seldom turns to discipline. And I've already decided that if it does in a particular thread or whatever, I'll just sit that one out.


I'm not an Attachment parent OR a Traditional parent. I'm a Christian, God-loving, God-respecting, God-seeking parent who is determined to do what is best - in God's eyes - for my children. That has led me to be frugal, protective, and strict. Who cares about a label?


(And, oops! Sorry! Totally didn't mean that to turn into a rant! Moving away from the podium now....)
Ok, did you steal what I was going to write and put your name to it or what LOL!! This is totally me!! I did the whole cd'ing because it was cheaper, bf'ing because it was cheaper and better imo, and a baby wearer because I had things to do! LOL!!!
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February 23rd, 2010, 10:00 PM
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ahahahaaha! You gals are great. And I promise - I'm not stalking anyone! I can't even remember peoples' screennames half the time.

Glad to see I'm not the only oddball out there! Here. Whatever.



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I don't subscribe to either.

I think dalynnrmc might be my soul sister. .. and the fact that I see her on every forum I either visit or lurk in makes me think so even more ... or ... she's stalking me.
And, after posting my just previous post, I totally just now realized you're in the DDC too. Too funny. We should chat! I never find anyone that thinks I should be their soul sister.




And I totally just learned something else! If you make a post within a short time after posting to the same thread, it automatically edits your previous post instead of making another one. Cool.
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February 23rd, 2010, 10:05 PM
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I never bothered to figure it out. I do what is best for my kids with what I know at the time. Funny enough every situation is differnt.
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February 24th, 2010, 07:00 AM
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And, after posting my just previous post, I totally just now realized you're in the DDC too. Too funny. We should chat! I never find anyone that thinks I should be their soul sister.
I lurk in the Large Families forum too. Being that I'm only expecting my 4th I still feel a little out of place but some of those ladies are the most sober parents I have met so I like to peek in now and then.
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February 24th, 2010, 09:19 AM
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Dont get online here often, but definately AP. I CD too but dont really see that as part of AP other then alot of AP mothers are stay at home moms and cd is cheaper. My sons have skin problems with disposables, cant wear anything but pull ups and even those not for too long so thast another reason to cd for us.
I think of myself more as a a continuum concept mother, we go with what comes naturally, so breastfeeding, co sleeping, no cio, and no spanking.
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February 24th, 2010, 03:32 PM
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I guess I'm a mix of both. I don't fit under either category. a lot of what has been said so far. I did the EBFing, co-sleeping, babywearing, delayed vaxing, alternative meds, organic route b/c it works for us. I also use disposable diapers, discipline, etc. I just do what works for us.
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