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Well we have escalated to a power struggle here. Monday Noah was being Noah and I took his work away and told him if he wanted to waste my time he could go back to school. Big mistake on my part because I think he was baiting me. Now he is refusing to do any work and wants to go back to school. The only reason he can give me is to be with his friends. He thinks he'd go back as a 7th grader which is what all his neighborhood friends are.. but he wouldn't..he already finished 7th grade at home. I really don't want to put him back in, but I also really don't want to deal with him miserable at home. I already told him if he could come up with real reasons why I might think about it. I also told him if he is not pulling a B average all his Privileges are non exisistant IF he goes back. When he was in 6th he was lazy, did nothing , failed tests, didn't hand in or do work.. i refuse to let it go back to that. Right now he is doing everything he can to annoy us all day long, get in trouble etc.. I know he is trying to make me mad and force my hand but I don't want to allow this.
I also don't want to go back to never being able to do anything because we have to be home at 2pm.. no field trips or anything if he goes back.. yeah that part is selfish I know..
Ok I need input..something to keep me sane.
Homeschooling "soccer mom" by day.. crazy bartender by night
Noah 17,Declan 10, Jadziah 8, Taejan 6
I'd tell him you should never have said that and it's not an option. School is not for socialization. Homeschooling seems to be though lol I'd also look at what he is doing in school (curriculum choices) and include him in the discussion and figure out what works for him and what doesn't. Kids resisting because something isn't right for them applies to bigger kids as much as it does little kids.
~Heather, wife to Jamie (15 years; June 5, 1998) and mom to
Ani - 14 (February 15, 2000), Cameron - 12 (October 3, 2001),
Fritz - 7 (July 11, 2006), and Adrian - 5 (June 19, 2008) Smaller on the Outside
I don't have anything else to offer. I've said the same thing to Jack, but he gets upset and begs me not to send him to public school. I better watch what I say though because one day that "threat" may come back to bite me in the butt! I hope Noah settles down soon and things will run smoothly for ya'll.
Happy Homeschooling Mom to:
I just had to tell you this. My sister has a 15 year old dd. They have been having all kinds of heck with her not doing her work, or doing it poorly, just to get it done so she could go about her day (because afterall, she's 15 and has "more important" things to do ). Well, last Thursday my sister had it out with her. She said it was an all day fight. Come Friday morning, she let her know that she had to have ALL her work completed & passed for the day before she can do anything else. She wanted to go to the football game Friday night & her mom told her only if she completes & passes everything. She was supposed to be ready to leave by 5pm. Well she handed in her work at some point. Alot of it was incomplete & what was finished, she failed. So she had to go back and redo it & complete the rest. My sister said she was all day finishing & re-doing failed work. 5pm came & went. She missed her ride to the football game. She was crying & snotting & throwing fits. She called someone else to see when they were leaving to go to the game. They were leaving at 7, so she had 2 more hours to work on it all. She finally handed in everything complete & passed at 6:45! My sister said her nose was swollen from crying & having fits all day, her hair was a mess, & she had make-up running down her face. She had 15 minutes to get ready for the game. I was laughing my butt off while my sis was telling me all this. BUT, all week so far, she has had all her work completed & done perfectly by 10 or 11am!
So, all that just to let you know, that you're not alone in going through the fits with a teen. It sounds to me like taking away priveleges is a good way to go to get through that attitude.
Happy Homeschooling Mom to: