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November 12th, 2010, 12:08 PM
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My sister is getting divorced, and it is really bugging me. We just found out about a month ago that they were even having any issues. Pretty much it boils down to my sister deciding she wasn't ok with my BIL's personality, beliefs, etc. He hasn't changed at all, she just decided after 10 years that she was done pretending she was ok with it. We feel pretty bad for BIL, because although we don't agree with everything he says or believes, he is a good man and has always been a great husband and father. Plus, its not like he changed, my sister did. He was shocked when she told him she wanted a divorce. I do feel it is the best thing for my sister, because when they were trying to work it out, she was taking anti-depressants and sleeping pills, she was mean and cranky all the time, and cried a lot. As soon as they made the decision to split, she has been much happier and is off the pills.

My parents have always stressed the importance of marriage, just that if you marry someone, you better be sure they are the "one" and especially if you have children, you better stick with it.

The thing that is really bothering me is my nieces. They are 4 and 8. My 8 year old niece is taking it really badly. I just feel horrible for her, and have no idea how to help her. My 4 year old niece really has no idea what is happening, but I know it will eventually affect her. There are just so many scary statistics about children of divorce, and I just hope my nieces will be ok. In a way, we wish my sister would move back here, so that we could help her out, but obviously it is not a good idea to take the girls away from their dad.

My sister said that she never got to make her own decisions. That her husband made them all. Honestly, I kind of do this with DH, so he and I had a long talk about it. It has definitely made me more aware of my own marriage and what to look out for.

Anyways....I know this is totally not related, but I just needed to get it out. Thanks for listening
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November 12th, 2010, 03:31 PM
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Oh Kaite I'm so sorry. I know it's natural to worry about what happens to kids in a divorce but ask yourself what would happen to them if their mother stayed in an emotionally tormented state her entire life? My SILs parents recently got divorced and they both grew tremendously after the split and turned into way nicer people to be around. I bet your nieces will do just fine, they have a strong mama and a great aunt
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November 13th, 2010, 07:25 AM
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I agree....and I understand your worry...it's hard...especially since he hasn't changed. HUGS....I hope that this goes as smooth as possible for all involved...I think it's one thing to ask for a divorce...it's another be a jerk DURING one....I hope everyone remains civil and respectful....HUGS
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We aren't to give a baby milk, berries, or peanut butter. We are to introduce new foods one at a time. But it's OK to inject several viruses, bacteria, aluminum, formaldehyde, phenoxyethanol, animal serum, mercury, squalene and more into an 8 week old? I don't think so.
In order to be healthy it is an unfortunate fact that people must be allowed the opportunity to be ill. I trust my body and those of my children to work correctly against the relatively benign diseases they vax for, and do not trust the ingredients in the vaccinations.
Our choice to not vax isn't based in ignorance, poverty, conspiracy theory and rumor. It's research, common sense, fact and evidence based..something the medical community has largely forgot about.
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November 14th, 2010, 08:53 PM
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Thank you for the support I think the hardest thing is, my sister and BIL don't really fight or anything, so its not like my nieces even had any idea anything was wrong. It just came out of nowhere for them. I've never known anyone who was going through divorce, so it is just a whole new world.
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