[Indymommy7]

Hi all-

I just turned 35 in July. I am 19 weeks pregnant with my 6th child.

I am really tired of the rude comments as though I am now 35, and my body knows my ovaries are turning to dust

First, it was the bank teller. She is this twentysomething bimbo who found out my age. I do look really young for my age, so I am told, and when she learned I was 35 and expecting, her comments was ' I hope this is your last, you are getting to that risky age'.

OH THE NERVE

Then I get the same thing from my daughter's speech therapist. About the age and risks. Ok, yeah, they do go up, no doubt there. However, I have a friend who had two special needs children in her twenties including a child with Downs Syndrome!

Do you ladies ever get such rude comments and if so, how do you rebuttle?

Thanks for your

[emsketch]

I always had people making comments to me when I was pg because I knew I would be high risk before getting pregnant. Lots of "Are you gonna be ok?" and "I thought you were not supposed to get pregnant." type of comments. I always just told people that I would be just fine and that I had a good team of MDs looking out for me. Beyond that I pretty much just ignored it.

[Jendaly]

I am so sorry that people are being insensitive and rude to you. Comments like that frost my behind because there are so many women have babies much older that we are.

You are only as old as you feel!!

Hang in there, and Congratulations!!

[loving_mommy]

Yes! When a friend of mine found out I was pregnant, she was talking to her husband about it and her husbands response was "isn't she 36?" I also look young for my age and I know it wasn't meant to make me feel badly, but it did! Then I started to worry about the complications (that lastly mostly a day or two).

ugh!! I hear you.

[MomtoKatieB]

A regular customer at the store where I work noticed I was pregnant earlier this weeek. She saw my gray hair and realized I am not 21 anymore. She said something about me being a bit older. I suppose I am mean but I smiled sweetly and said "Yes, I don't know how I will manage to carry her around and use my walker". Guess those pregnancy hormones have kicked in full force.

[Indymommy7]

Originally Posted by BethB

A regular customer at the store where I work noticed I was pregnant earlier this weeek. She saw my gray hair and realized I am not 21 anymore. She said something about me being a bit older. I suppose I am mean but I smiled sweetly and said "Yes, I don't know how I will manage to carry her around and use my walker". Guess those pregnancy hormones have kicked in full force.

That was AWESOME!!!! Love it!

[Banned-Christina226]

Hey, just lurking around. LOL I'm laughing at what you told that lady -- "Yes, I don't know how I will manage to carry her around and use my walker" -- omggggggg that's something I would've definitely said if I were in your shoes.

I'm 23 and I've seen MUCH older women be pregnant. I hate when people put their 2cents in. They should mind their business or watch what they say. It's like you're not supposed to be pregnant because you're older. Granted, there are risks, we all know that, but it doesn't mean something IS going to happen. I hate when people predict future pregnancies and things like that!!


Anyways, congrats to all of you!! H&H 9 months!

[mollycat]

My mother in law told me that it was stupid and irresponsible of people my age deliberately trying to have a baby

I "hopefully" put her back in her place when I told her that "we had been trying to have this baby for quite a long time, and all tests at this stage showed that our baby was healthy.

[Mama2Nico]

Yes, right there with you...just turned 36 last week and my son will be born via c-section on 9/14 (he is breech). Even in my DDC, when asked about having additional kids I keep seeing posts saying "yes but not over "30-whatever" because then I'll be too old etc.

Meh...between that and getting comments because I'm thin and all the weight I've gained (20 pounds thus far, hoping to get closer to 25 by the 14th) is in my stomach, I am ready to tell the next stranger who comments what they can do with them

[mellochick]

It hasn't started yet for me because I am just now starting to show and I don't look my age (38), but I am certain the comments will come from family members. Most close ones know that we've been trying for a while but there are always the ignorant few...especially on DH's side.

[Blessingsfromabove]

I get the comments all the time, from doctors, my sisters, friends etc. I don't let it become an issue. I laugh and I smile..... because babies are a blessing....and I was given this blessing and I intend to enjoy every minute of it!!

Now..... when I am in my HORMONAL mood....LOL.... I just tell them where their inconsiderate comments can be properly stuffed!!!

[bunningboysmom]

My husband and I just announced to family and friends that we are trying for our third (I turned 35 Sept. 3 and DH is 32) and were really surprised by how everyone reacted. They are not very supportive and feel like now that I am 34 I should just be happy with the two we have, of course I am, but I would still like to add to our family. People can be really horrible. Keep your chin up and know that you are blessed!

[mum74]

Originally Posted by BethB

A regular customer at the store where I work noticed I was pregnant earlier this weeek. She saw my gray hair and realized I am not 21 anymore. She said something about me being a bit older. I suppose I am mean but I smiled sweetly and said "Yes, I don't know how I will manage to carry her around and use my walker". Guess those pregnancy hormones have kicked in full force.

I love it Beth - I'd never think of something that funny on the spot!!!