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So, I was totally surprised this weekend to find out I am pregnant. I have 2 kids, 11 and 9, and my husband and I were totally done having kids. I will be 40 this summer, and still can't believe this has happened. We are thinking about termination, because I can't imagine starting over, but I don't think I can go through that. My husband is definitely thinking we should terminate.
I am just in disbelief, and worried out of my mind. I don't think it's fair to my kids I have now, and I'm worried about how my body will handle it (I had to have a sling put in under my bladder 2 years ago b/c of my past pregnancies. Another pregnancy will ruin this procedure and it'll have to be redone), not to mention the risks that come with having a baby after 40. What do I do????
WOW, that is definately a lot to be worried about.
The questions that you are asking are dificult and it really depend on your prospective. You could read some of our loss boards and realize what a miricle this or you can think that termination is the best choice for you.
I don't know what you should do especially as we just met. However of all the unplanned children i have met in the world very few parents regret having them.
We do have an abortion loss group and perhaps you might want to see about joining that group.