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March 25th, 2011, 05:45 PM
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thanks so much ladies...i'm excited to be able to talk to other 40'ish moms. the internet (and my RE) makes it seem like you have a better chance of being hit by lightening while holding a winning $100m lottery ticket in your hand than having a healthy pregnancy over 40. The RE was kind enough to point out that even IF I could somehow get pregnant on my own "the chance of carrying a healthy baby to term" was very low, which is why i'm a nervous wreck right now. they wouldn't even do IVF for me...told me donor eggs were my only option.

That's nonsense. Look how many older women had babies a hundred years ago, or even fifty years ago... well before the advent of modern-day fertility treatments, before ultrasounds, before modern-day "prenatal care" of any kind.
Why, most women in the 1700s and 1800s had between nine and twelve kids (not all of whom survived to adulthood), and it was not at all uncommon to have one's last baby in one's mid to late 40s.
And my mother-in-law just told me today that her mom was 46 when she was born (sixty years ago, well before IVF and donor eggs).

Not to be snarky, but I wonder if doctors tell women just that to get them to spend a bunch of money on fertility treatments, genetic testing, etc.
Or maybe it's out of concern, because the rate of birth defects is higher as we age.
But it's not that high, and it's our risk to take, if we want to. They shouldn't be trying to dissuade us or frighten us.

Best wishes.
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March 26th, 2011, 10:24 AM
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I had an u/s this a.m., and they confirmed I was micarrrying. I was bleeding and cramping all night, so there was no doubt in my mind by the time I went in. I've never miscarried before, but you just KNOW.

I wish you all the BEST on your journey, and will keep you in my thoughts that you have a very happy ending!
Oh I am so sorry honey... I know how hard and painful it is. Stick around JM... There are so many boards to go to for support and to make new friends. I am really sorry. (((Hugs)))
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