[tracyscott2013]

I have a 13 yr old stepdaughter who has been quite a handful. She lived with us on and off her whole life...but mainly lived w/ her paternal grandma - she has fully custody/adopted her. We moved to Boston MA and soon after, 13yo came up. She was here a yr and caused lots of problems/drama etc. Back to Memphis for about 8 months and begged to come back - "Ive changed, I miss you guys"...on and on. So, she came back and was great for maybe 2 weeks. She's very negative, very argumentative, can be physically abusive to her sister, verbally abusive for sure. We have her set up w/ a psych eval in a few weeks.

My main concern is her reaction to our "what if" conversation last night. She said she "hates babies" and refuses to remain in the house if we have another one. She said she would just "go back to Memphis" if we announce we are pregnant.

I tried reasoning that it would be another person to love....she isn't going for it. Any advice on how to handle a sassy 13 yr old??

[Rebelmommy]

I have no advice My oldest will be 19 in 3 days and she moved out when we told her we were having another baby. It's not that she hated the idea, but she wasn't as excited and warm about it as our younger children were.

[Lexzmom]

I would definitely see what the psych eval shows. If she is unstable, I would be concerned not only for a new baby, but your other daughter as well.

[tracyscott2013]

We ended up telling her on Saturday. She was initially very teary eyed and dramatic. Then somehow she turned it into something about herself and started talking about it w/ her church friends. She might not be thrilled but she isn't as freaked out as she threatened to be!