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  #1  
October 13th, 2006, 05:29 PM
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Well, since I am new to the site and this forum id love to get to know everyone. So, give it up!! Tell me your story...

Ill tell you more about mine.. After our first 4 kids, dh had a vasectomy and we "thought" we were done. But a few years later we both LONGED for another baby, so he had it reversed. We tried and tried but NADA.. Then after his 12 months in Iraq he came home and a couple months later what I thought was jet lag wasnt, it was a Dominic, LOL.. I had him just a few days shy of 34. Well, we said lets try and have 1 more and several months later we were given a Roman. He was born in July. It was funny going to OB visits being "advanced maternal age" when MOST of the other moms were my older kids ages, LOL.. I felt super old. I have enjoyed all my pregnancies but I most enjoyed these last 2 with DOminic and Roman, I think because i just took the time to savor and enjoy each and every second of it. I would LOVE, LOVE, LOVE 1 more.. Trying to convince DH, so we shall see.. I am excited to find out your stories
We are a military family and our kids are 17, 16, 14, 13, 20 months and 3 months. Our oldest son, nicholas, Is joining the Army after he graduates Highschool in May.
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October 13th, 2006, 07:13 PM
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I had 2 sons from a previous relationship when I met my wonderful hubby. We actually met on line in 1997 and married that same year. Hubby never had children of his own, so the first few years we tried, but just had no luck. We gave up trying at all for a few years. When I turned 38 (last year), I started feeling "intuitive???" and I talked to hubby about our ages, and that we would soon be too old to have babies. I was worried that he might resent not having his own children in the future, even though he is an excellent step father to my boys. I actually wanted to start taking precautions so that we wouldn't get pregnant after 40.

Funny thing, about the same time, I became obsessed with buying children's books lol. I was just driven to get them, and ended up with about 100 of them before I was ever pregnant. I reasoned with myself and everyone who thought I was nuts that they would be for my grandchildren one day.

Low and behold, we ended up pregnant early in 2005. I had never been so sick in my entire life as I was then. I thought I had some violent form of stomach flu, until my doctor told me otherwise! We were both shocked, but pleasantly surprised, and absolutely thrilled. We had a beautiful baby girl on Nov. 9th.

After having her, I started worrying about our ages again and whether or not we would be there for her when she grew up. I longed for her to have a sibling to grow up with and have by her side throughout life, and prayed about it every single day. When she was 4 months old, I found out I was pregnant again! I wasn't sick this time, just a little queezy and off balance. My son told me I was pregnant again as a joke, so I tested on a whim, and it was positive.

This time we are expecting a baby boy in December.

I'm now 39, hubby is 40, our boys are 18 and 22, and our precious daughter is 11 months.
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October 14th, 2006, 11:02 AM
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MPWife,
Great Topic, I love to hear these stories


I met my hubby in 1985 at 19 years old and knew I wanted to marry him. We dated for 2 years and were married. We had 3 children. My first was born with a genetic condition (Ocularalbanism- Albanism). He is now a very busy 17 year old (Honor Student, applying for colleges, does Debate and has had his first girlfriend for 5 months). We then had 2 daughters (14 & 12 yrs) and thought we were done. My dh had a vasectomy 13 years ago. I never felt like I was "done" having kids so I refused to have a tubal. When our youngest turned 11 years old my husband asked if I wanted to have another baby. I was shocked!!! It took us a year to think about it and prepare for it. My dh went in for surgery in January and I got a BFP in March. Unfortunately that was a chemical pregnancy. We were devasted......... So when we got a BFP in May we were excited but nervous. So far the pregnancy has gone well. We are excited and scared. I had an amnio in August and found out we are having a BOY!!!!

P.S. I love this forum because I know I want another baby but when you talk to people who are "done having children" they are not supportive at all. They think we are crazy to have another child, why don't we enjoy these years. Well most of the people that I see that are "enjoying life" are busy working and partying on weekends. My husband asked me if I knew very many couples that just get together that are younger than 60 years old that alcohol is not involved with. I had to really think about that one?
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October 14th, 2006, 01:19 PM
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yes, people ask us the same thing? Why?? why not enjoy life without kids or with older kids?? I say I love my life and enjoy it WITH our kids. Im sad that they are getting older and will be on their own soon. My dh and I are not partying type people. Don't get me wrong we like to have fun with our friends and host dinner parties and do things as a couple, BUT the thrill of our lives are our children.
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October 14th, 2006, 02:32 PM
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I've been divorced for a little over five years. I have two boys from that marriage who are 12 and 6. I always wanted a lot of kids but it was a push just to get my ex to have two. I've dated these past five years but have not met anyone I would want to have a baby with. I decided about two years ago that if I didn't meet someone I was going to use donor sperm and that's what I've done. My insurance covered almost all of it. I chose a donor and went to a reproductive specialist. I had one insemination (IUI) using no medication which didn't work. I decided to use medication for the next one b/c the doctor said it would increase my chances. Using the medication matured my follicles quicker and then they used ultrasound to monitor how big they were then gave me a shot that made me ovulate. On my second cycle I conceived. I just turned 37 in September. When I was thinking about doing this I really weighed the pros and cons and I realized that if I didn't try to have another I would really regret it. I'm the oldest of six myself and have the support of my entire family. I'm very excited. It's a different feeling this time because I know that this will really probably be my last so I'm enjoying every minute.
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October 15th, 2006, 11:06 AM
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Wow these are great stories. I am fairly new here.

I am Denise and my dh and I were married 20 years in Aug. We met when in 1983 when I was 16 and fell quickly in love. Got engaged when I was 18, married when I was 19. I was on the pill before and after we were married. About 2 months after we were married I decided that I really wanted a baby. Briefly mentioned it to him and he was fine with it. I went off the pill in October of 1986. It took a year to get pregnant and in Dec of 1987 we learned we were expecting our first. After she was born I went back on b/c for a short time but didn't want to really be on it. After that we didn't use anything to not get pregnant. I didn't conceive right away and went to the Dr's looking for help. They put me on Clomid and the first month I conceived. I thought that was easy. I had a m/c in March of 1993. It was an early m/c. I hadn't seen a Dr or anything. I went back to the Dr's at some point looking again to use Clomid. We tried it for a bit but it didn't work right away. Took a brief break then tried again in Spring of 1994. It only took a couple months. We were excited to have a son. I knew by then to tell the midwives dont' ask me about b/c because I wasn't going to use any. They said are you prepared to have children close together and I said yup. Of course it didn't happen. We again had to get on Clomid. This time it took a many months for it to work. I didn't like being on Clomid because it really affected my moods. I was so consummed with having a baby. I got really depressed at times because it just wasn't happening. Finally in Jan of 1998 we found out we were expecting again. We were so excited. My second son was born that September. We again started right away trying to have another baby. It wasn't easy. In 2000 I had another early m/c. There was a lot of stress in my life at the time. I continued to go on. We went back on Clomid at some point and in Jan of 2001 we found out we were expecting again. I was so excited. I went in for an appointment at 8 weeks. They did an ultrasound. I never expected to hear what he said. He started asking me if my dates were correct. Maybe I was off on them. I had been temping and knew when I ovulated. Then he told me that there was no heartbeat. The baby stopped growing at 5 1/2 weeks. I had told him I just didn't think things felt right with this pregnancy. My husband was with me in the room. I was completely devastated. We both just cried in the Dr's office. The Dr's was so upset about it all. We made a deicsion to not have a d & c but to m/c naturally. I figured it would happen quickly. It took 2 weeks for me to m/c. That was a horrible two weeks for me. I went into such a depression. After it was all over I felt like people were so distant from me. They didn't know what to say so they didnt' talk to me at all. It was horrible. I got myself out of the depression and went back on Clomid. This time it was 100 mg. I was deterimed to get pregnant. It didn't happen and didn't happen. I was so discouraged. Meantime my cousin who had just had a baby a month after my m/c was again pregnant. I just couldn't understand why it couldn't happen to me. Finally in March of 2002 I had gone to a women's retreat. I learned about control and giving things over to God. I was so consummed with getting pregnant that it was taking over every part of me. I had to let it go and give it to God. The Dr's had told me I do not ovulate and the chances of getting prenant were slim. I was so at peace with my decision. I came home threw away the clomid, sold my baby items and went on with life. I still wanted another baby but I was at peace with whatever God gave me. In Nov of 2003 I was late. I really didn't think much about it at the time. I thought well I am getting close to 40 maybe my cycle is changing. My husband even bought me a test but it sat on my dresser. Finally one morning at 4:30 am I tested. It was positive right away. I just sat there in cried. I couldn't believe it happened to me. I woke my dh up and we just cried together. On July 30, 2004 our miracle was born. I was in awe that he was really here. We again didn't think about getting pregnant. I did start taking my temps because I was getting older and I had started using natural progesterone. I wanted to know when I ovulated. Well, this past year I think since January I only ovulated one month. Then in Sept I ovulated again. I didn't think about the timing at all. When I was late I thought I can't be pregnant. On Oct 6 I tested. Sure enough it turned positive the minute the pee hit it. I am praying that this baby sticks. I am due the beginning of June 2007. We have not told anyone except my pastor and one of my best friends. We are waiting to tell the children until after I go to the Dr's. I am scared to have an ultrasound done. If it shows up something wrong I do not know how I will deal with it. We will not tell anyone else until I am at least 12 weeks. Sometime around thanksgiving.

Thanks for taking time to read my story. It sure was a long one.
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October 16th, 2006, 07:55 AM
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I met DH over 14 years ago and we were married in 1998. In 2000 we decided to start our family. We conceived on the first try. After a truly uneventful pregnancy, DS surprised us 3 weeks early. That left me so exhausted that we decided our family was complete. After we moved last summer we sold/gave away all our baby stuff with the exception of some burp cloths and blankets I'd made. Then in January of this year, God told me that we needed to have another child. That was followed the next day by pleas from DS for a sibling, because he was lonely being the only child in our family. That broke my heart.

Finally got DH on board to try again in March. We conceived immediately, but lost that one in April. I had signs of O two days after the bleeding stopped, so we tried again and once again, succeeded on the first try. We found out that one had no h/b in early June, followed the next day by a d&c. Doc tested that one and determined we'd lost both to trisomy 16, common for "my age".

After a one cycle break, lots of prayer, and emotional healing, we tried again. First try worked again and this one has no signs of chromosomal issues, for which we are incredibly thankful. At my last appointment, we learned that we're having another boy. He's due April 12th.
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October 18th, 2006, 09:58 AM
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What a pleasure to read everyone’s stories; the ups and the downs. Thank you everyone for sharing – especially the painful parts, which are often easier to keep quiet about. Congratulations to all on our current pregnancies! Woot! Question: What does ‘dh’ mean? Dear husband? (smile)

A quick intro: I shall be 36 on Nov 1 and am 21 weeks into my first pregnancy. My husband and I intended to start our family years ago but built a business instead. The last ten years simply melted into a sea of work. Last spring we decided it was time to at least ‘begin’ seriously planning a family, for despite my not feeling 35, the calendar does not lie. We thought it would take perhaps a year to conceive but it only took one attempt. That stunned us both, but now that it’s done we see the wisdom in the timing. Why not now? (smile) The pregnancy has been trouble free. No morning sickness. No problems at all thus far (knock on wood). We feel very, very blessed. I had an amniocentesis performed several weeks ago, simply for peace of mind – and God gave it. Strange, but I’ve had a phobia against that particular test since I first heard of it as a child back in the ‘70s. I fretted over it for weeks prior to the procedure, but when the day came, I was able to calm myself into a cucumber state, and it all went very well. The geneticist turned out to be a woman, which was unexpected but wonderful. She held my hand as the doctor performed the procedure and stroked my arm in a motherly way. It was a perfectly peaceful experience. Funny how God often forces us into the very situations we fear – so that we might face them and grow.

All my very best to everyone! Oh! P.S. We're expecting a girl! (grin)
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October 21st, 2006, 09:46 AM
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Hi,
I met my husband when I was 33. We got married 2 years later. And now, we are expecting our first child...a boy. I am 36 and I am 22 weeks pregnant. My husband is anglophone (english-speaking) with Macedonian roots and I am francophone (french-speaking). It should be an interesting mix.

I had a miscarriage in February of this year. My baby is expected next year on the same day I had a miscarriage this year. It gives me the feeling I have an angel watching over me. A little spooky though.

So far, we are doing fine. Though, I just found out I have high blood pressure and it worries me a little. I am being checked again on the 31st and I am doing everything in my power to be better by then.
So, that is a little about me...
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October 22nd, 2006, 03:12 PM
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Welcome Yoshi,

It is a pleasure to 'meet' you. I am new to this forum as well. You and I are close in age, as are our babies. Also, our cross-cultural couples are similar in that my husband is a francophone (French, but living in the US since twelve years now) and I am an anglophone (American who loves to travel but rarely gets to - smile). We currently live in Colorado. I am sorry to hear of your miscarriage, but felt something sweet upon hearing of your due-date, and how it corresponds with your misfortune of last year. I hope you are relaxing this week and taking care of yourself. Let us know how it goes on the 31st!

All my best, d.
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October 23rd, 2006, 04:48 AM
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Hi Delsol,
It is a pleasure to meet you too. We do have a lots in common. I am sure we will have the chance to exchange more. Best of luck during your pregnancy...
Yoshi
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