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Hi everyone! I'm Jessica (41) and DH is Paul (38) and we've been ttcing #1 for 14 months now, but have re-directed our thoughts towards adoption. But, recently, a friend of mine offered herself as a surrogate. I have a pretty good feeling that my egg reserve is diminished or they are just too old and decrepit, so I mentioned a traditional surrogacy with her (her eggs & DH's spermies) and she said yes! So, my question to all of you is.....what all do I need to know and ask? What all is involved? Does anybody have a clue how much a normal pg with a c/s costs? (Her last child was a c/s and she doesn't think her doc will allow her to do a vbac) I know, you'd think I'd already have figured that out if we've been ttcing this long....but I haven't ever checked into it. Any help and insight would be greatly appreciated! Thank you!
We did a traditional surrogacy via home insemination. I am here if you have any questions at all. With the cost are you meaning for the surrogacy or do you mean hospital bills and doctor bills? I am not sure what the going rate is for a TS, I was my SIL's surrogate so I only asked for a little to cover pregnancy related stuff and for going out to eat more because I was to drained to cook . She also covered all medical bills and maternity clothing.
Mom to Issac (8/22/99), Carly (8/10/06), and Zack (2/7/11)
Surromom/Aunt to Luke (1/21/09)
Thank you so much for the replies! Yes, I'm more curious about the hospital bills, doctor bills, legal costs, etc. Here in Washington it's illegal to compenste for surrogacy so that's not an issue and my friend doesn't want anything for it anyway....she's just doing it so DH & I can enjoy the gift and joy of parenting. She said she thought long and hard before she even offered it to us. DH & I are both so excited that we may still be able to have a child that's at least part ours biologically. I'm just hoping to have all of the avenues and potential pitfalls covered. I really appreciate the help. April, how did the home insem go? Was it weird/strange?
Hospital bills/doctor bills will depend on what her insurance/deductible is. That's what ours were anyway (well we straddled two calendar years so it was a little more then just one year's deductible). The only legal cost I've had is to pay for the step-parent adoption to get my name on the birth certificate. That was right around $1500.