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I know many out there who are interested in being a surrogate mother. After reading some of the ads lately on the classifieds that are out there. I am HORRIFIED at what I am finding. There are people who can't spell surrogacy and they are trying to be a surrogate.
There are specific items that should be included in the ad. There are ALOT of things that should be LEFT out of ads. Ad writing doesn't have to be difficult. It is just like creating a resume. You want to stand out to potential IP's. But at the same time, you want to be honest, and bring up certain pieces of information that is important.
A good ad should have the basic information about you. I don't know which way is easier, so I am going to do it both ways. Here is what a good ad should look like (yes, this is my personal information and what I would type in an ad if I needed to place one)
Looking for IP's to help.....
My name is Bethany Jones. I am a 27 year old, married mother of two. My son is 7 and my daughter is 5. Both pregnancies were uncomplicated and were both delivered by c-section. I was a traditional surrogate in 2007, delivering a little boy who is now 3, also delivered by c-section. I am looking to help one final couple become parents and would love to make your dreams of becoming parents a reality. After the birth of my TS babe, I had my tubes tied, therefore I am only available as a Gestational surrogate. I will have to have a repeat c-section and have already had the okay from both my family doctor as well as an RE from my area to become pregnant one final time.
More about me:
-200 pounds (and working on that as we speak to get it lower)
-knowledgeable about the process of being a gestational surrogate
-looking to help traditional IP's as well as same sex couples
-willing to discuss comp, as I know this varies with each couple
-please no agencies, I prefer to match independent
-no drugs, alcohol or tobacco use ever
I look forward to hearing from you soon!
HERE IS A LIST OF WHAT I THINK SHOULD BE IN AN AD:
-weight and height OR BMI
-any pregnancies and the outcome of those pregnancies
-how I will deliver
-what type of couple I am willing to help
-what type of surrogate I am willing to be
-how you want to match
-that I have not ever used drugs, alcohol or tobacco
Now...this also will depend on the type of ad you will be placing. If you are wanting to be a traditional surrogate or egg donor, then I would also list information such as:
-heritage (German, Spanish, African American, ect)
-any medical history that is important (if you have ever had blood pressure issues)
Hints and tips:
Notice in my ad that I made sure to mention that I delivered all my children via c-section. This can be a deal breaker for IP's and if you mention it up front, it will waste both your time and the time of the parents if they are looking for someone to only deliver vaginally.
Also notice that I did not mention in my ad any type of dollar amount. My reasoning is that because I am negotiable and willing to work with the couple on comp payments, then there is no reason to state an actual figure. That can and will scare off IP's if you are set on a certain amount. If you do have a set amount and you are not willing to budge, then I would mention that you have this fee, and you are not negotiable, however, understand you will get less responses because some people can't afford higher fees.
Notice I also put in there that I do not want agencies contacting me. There are agencies that will go through the classifieds and respond to ads that do not say that. They are trying to get you to sign with their agency to match you with their couples. If you do not want to work with an agency, list that in there so they do not email you.
Ad writing doesn't have to be a difficult process in becoming a surrogate. But always make sure to check your spelling and grammar. If you can't even spell the word surrogate, most IP's are going to scroll right past your ad. Please be smart when ad writing. Put enough information to make a good first impression, but you don't want to lay everything on the line right out front. Save some of that for when you start communicating, like your feelings on selective reduction, multiples and what type of relationship you seek after the child is born. These are very personal questions that I feel should be left for communicating between surrogate and parents.
If you ever have a question about writing an ad, feel free to ask!
Mommy to Damon TS to Kyle 10/07 GS for E and R--WE ARE PREGNANT!!
Try 1--Sept 2010 negative Try 2--Jan 2011 negative
Try 3--May 2011-miscarried at 5 weeks
Transfer 4---PREGNANT!!! BFP @ 5.5dp3dt Beta at 11dp3dt was 164.6
Ultrasound showed TWO BABIES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!