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Would you consider an expensive surrogacy as an option if you couldn't have a child yourself or couldn't adopt?
How hard would it be to have another woman carry your child for nine months, particularly if she lived in a foreign country?
Not hard at all if you and your partner are desperate for children.
Still, the prospect of asking a stranger to carry their baby was frightening for Bass Coast woman, Tammy Charles and her husband.
"It was this constant see-saw of 'yes we're going to do it, no we're not going to do it'," Tammy told ABC Gippsland's Mornings Program.
"We really wanted a baby, that was the end thing and it was just like, we're going to do it."
The 44 year-old has four teenage sons from a previous marriage. She underwent a hysterectomy in her 30s for medical reasons and after remarrying found herself thinking about children once more.
"The process in which to do adoption in Australia is long-winded and we'd be close to 50 by the time we actually go to adopt a child and we'd be too old," Tammy said.
Instead she embarked on 12 months of research into surrogacy.
Surrogacy laws vary from state to state in Australia but commercial surrogacy in which a woman is paid to have a child beyond birthing and health costs is illegal.
"You have to find your own surrogate. Some people are really lucky and a family member will become their surrogate and then that process is still two, three years down the track," Tammy said.
"For someone to come along and go, 'oh yeah I'd be happy to have your baby', is a very special gift to give someone and in Australia there has to be no monetary exchange."
Convinced there would be no one on home soil prepared to carry their child, Tammy and her husband ventured overseas, settling with a clinic in Thailand.
Tammy, a nurse, said she was lucky to have the medical knowledge to ensure the clinic, its staff and the would-be surrogate were above board.
After undergoing tests for physical and mental health, the couple was introduced to a woman who was prepared to carry their child - or children.
In about 14 weeks, they'll return from Thailand with twin boys. They were conceived with Tammy's husband's sperm and a donor's eggs.
The couple is thrilled despite the cost of supporting their surrogate through her pregnancy and enlisting the services of the clinic.
"If I could carry children, I would've carried them. If you want a baby, you want a baby, you want a child to love," Tammy said.
"The twin boys aren't biologically my children but I don't care. I'm going to love them anyway."
Mommy to Damon TS to Kyle 10/07 GS for E and R--WE ARE PREGNANT!!
Try 1--Sept 2010 negative Try 2--Jan 2011 negative
Try 3--May 2011-miscarried at 5 weeks
Transfer 4---PREGNANT!!! BFP @ 5.5dp3dt Beta at 11dp3dt was 164.6
Ultrasound showed TWO BABIES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!