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The planning has BARELY begun and I'm already frustrated lol.
Okay, so DF is from Wisconsin. All of his immediate family (including his son) live in WI. All of my immediate family lives here in AZ.
I'm completely torn as to where to plan the wedding!
On one hand, I wouldn't really mind most of my family not coming... so it's ALMOST easy, but here's the problem: I refuse to get married w/o my grandparents (they raised me from 2 yrs old) in attendance. The obvious answer is to fly them to WI with us (we have a lot of family in Illinois that they could stay with/visit as well), BUT they also have a very sick dog that requires hand-feeding 3x per day (among other things), so I doubt my grandma would be able to leave her behind.
The other option would be to fly his mom and son (and possibly his best friend) to AZ and have the wedding here, but then the rest of his family wouldn't be able to come.
Ugh! WWYD or what have you done (if you're in a similar situation)?
If you really want all of his family there, I would look into boarding the sick dog where it can receive the proper attention and care during your event. I'm getting married in South Carolina, and my mom and sister are here in Arizona, my dad is in New York, so I understand completely the frustration of people out of state that you really want there. Good luck with your decision.
We had a destination wedding and although we had a fairly large group, there were family members that couldn't make it. We picked the place where we wanted our special day to be and knew that the family that really wanted to spend that day with us would be there.
This is a tough one. If it's most important to you for your grandparents to be there, I would talk with them and see if they would have someone to care for their dog and would be willing to fly out with you or not.
If not and you decide it's best to have your wedding in WI, just to throw out another idea, you could consider doing a "legal" ceremony in AZ with your grandparents to make it special for them and then have the full symbolic ceremony in WI.