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There are so many new people I'll start by saying DF and I got engaged last May we planned on a wedding this year but things have come up and we are now planning a 2012 wedding.
When I got engaged I asked a close friend at the time to be a bridesmaid,I was honestly at the time thinking of making her my maid of honor. She accepted but since then I have moved away and we aren't as close. I haven't talked to her in months and I am beginning to think i made the wrong choice. Where I have rekindled a high-school friendship and I really would like to make a change, is this bridzillaish?
thats such a hard decission. I would want to be certain this new relationship is fully rekindled before I threw away the old bridesmaid. Its going to hurt your relationship with the friend you already asked. However this is your wedding and you want to be able to look over your wedding day photos and memories and be happy with your choice.
It is considered rude to "kick out" and "replace" wedding party members. If you don't talk to the first girl and she doesn't get a dress or anything, well, then she has taken herself out of the WP. Sounds like that just might happen for you. On the other hand, maybe she's just been really busy aand if you kick her out, you will most certainly be ending your friendship. Are you prepared for that?
Why not just add this new/old friend on? Your sides don't need to be "even".
I don't think so at all!
I actually ended up switching my MOH. (And my first MOH's mother bought my wedding dress. But the reason I asked her to step down was because we were in an almost akward situation. I have moved and lived states away from her for 3 or so years, and even before then we didn't talk much. The only reason I asked her was because we made a vow when we were in pre-school and we were like sisters until high school. IDK what I was thinking! But her mother texted and called me more then she did! I know that she wasn't that busy, she really isn't the most "bright" girl that everyone wants to be with and she doesn't have a job so I can only imagine she wasn't very busy.)
She accepted being a BM, and later she decided to let me know she can't even make it to the wedding because her dad already bought her a purse and that is all he can buy for her and she can't afford it on her own... (Please understand, she is two years younger then me and I don't think she realizes what a wedding is) It is really wierd, I laugh at myself for even considering to have her apart of my wedding!
My MOH that I kicked my exMOH for was awesome on the wedding day, and I wouldn't of chosen anyone else. I am glad I chose her because we were so close, and it wouldn't of been the same with someone else. Totally worth it!
Thanks for sharing girls...I figure I am going to wait cause I do still love her to death it is just she has like fallen of the face of the world and I do understand that we are both very busy people, not to mention at very differant stages in life. When more planning kicks in if she doesn't step up I'll have to step her down, I am going to need help planning and organizing everything being that most the planning is being done while I am pregnant