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May 6th, 2008, 12:32 PM
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I knew I would run into this, and in the time that I've been researching and considering a home birth, I've tried to think of a good response to this question. In my mind, from what I know, I have no doubt I will be in good hands with a midwife. If something happens, a sudden emergency, I have confidence that my midwife will be able to diagnose that there is a problem and take quick action to be sure both me and the baby make it through the delivery healthy and safe. Unfortunately, that is the first thing that everyone says when mentioning a home birth. "What if there is an emergency?" I can run over the many different answers in my head, starting with midwives will be sure you are having an uncomplicated, healthy pregnancy, I always have the option to switch if I feel my midwife isn't diagnosing problems (doubtful that would happen though), and in labor, help is only a phone call away. I also know midwives carry plenty of equipement with them to use if needed and are very well trained, many started as OB nurses or have worked in hospitals prior to training in midwifery.
Am I on track here? How do you respond to that question? Unfortunately, I will still have those that completely doubt me and the whole process, which I will have to have a thick skin about (I have had to in every other aspect of my parenting). I just want to be able to respond in a way that will help people understand that the whole process is far from "dangerous".
Andrea, mom to Abigail (6) Annabelle (4) and Alexis (1)

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May 6th, 2008, 01:36 PM
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"That's what hospitals are for."

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May 6th, 2008, 04:14 PM
Alison79's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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I just said that I had the utmost confidence that my midwife would take excellent care of both me and the baby.
Alison - Mom to: Augustus (2) Maximus (3) Eleanor (5) Reid (6) Evelyn (8) Lucas (12) Christopher (14)
Baby Leo or Charlotte due 7/27
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May 6th, 2008, 06:22 PM
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"That's what hospitals are for."[/b]
That has been my response for everyone who questioned our choice of a home birth.

Killian Rivers born April 17th at 36 weeks

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May 6th, 2008, 11:03 PM
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My best response is "like what?" because it opens the door to educate, and to show that you know your stuff. It's how I started with my mom who ended up being my biggest supporter.
"I trust birth—not birth attendants—for if you only trust birth that is attended then you really don't trust birth at all. You trust the attendant. And then you start over. Who? Doctor, surgeon, CNM, CPM, SIM? And it goes on and on...." - Carla Hartley
"First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then you win." -Gandhi
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May 7th, 2008, 05:10 PM
Isaeph's Avatar Jennifer the Momma
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My best response is "like what?" because it opens the door to educate, and to show that you know your stuff. It's how I started with my mom who ended up being my biggest supporter.[/b]
ITA...although my mom is NOT my biggest supporter.

What would happen if you went into labor in the middle of a terrible snowstorm and NO one could come or go? Mom and baby don't automatically die just because delivery takes place at home, kwim? I hate it when people that don't know what they are talking about try to talk an educated person out of their educated decision.
"Unborn children should be welcomed in life and protected in law." George W. Bush

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May 7th, 2008, 05:45 PM
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Short of a surgeons table and knife, midwifes are incredibly prepared. I wasn't even fully aware how prepared they are going into this journey to home birth. They carry IV's, oxygen, tubes to help breathing, pictocin for hemorrhaging, suturing supplies and are fully trained in resuscitation. One of the midwifes I interviewed even gave me an article on the safety of home birth to give to family members with questions. It looks like it's an article from Henri Goer and there is a url at the bottom, www.parentsplace.com/expert/birthguru ... so maybe you can find this article to print out too!
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May 7th, 2008, 08:57 PM
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Here's my favorite article for ya:

But What If...?

mom to Rachael, 9 ~ Milly, 5 ~ foster mom to R, 1
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May 11th, 2008, 05:34 PM
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I can't get the first article to come up, the other one is great, thanks mama!
Andrea, mom to Abigail (6) Annabelle (4) and Alexis (1)

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May 13th, 2008, 12:41 PM
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I never got to homebirth with my kiddos like I wanted, but I had planned on it for both of them.

I always used: "I don't call an ambulance on my way out the door whenever I leave the house, 'in case something happens'... "

That usually gets them to think a little more about what they just said.

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May 14th, 2008, 06:55 AM
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I would love to have a home birth...this is all really interesting stuff...I was always curious to know "What if" myself ....

~Homeschooling ,Breastfeeding, Sleep Sharing Mama!!~

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May 14th, 2008, 04:07 PM
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My answer is simple, if there is an emergency that can't be handled at home, we call 911 and go to a hospital. That's the only way I end up in one.

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May 16th, 2008, 05:19 PM
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my last pregnancy (in england) my midwife actually suggested homebirth to me - as my labours are very short and it would be safer to have midwife coming to me with equipment - than me tryting to find childcare, get myself into hospital etc and end up having baby parked on the road?
Also in england a home birth means you have 2 midwives at your house (1 for you and 1 for baby) - in hospital you might have 1 midwife overseeing 3 or more labouring women in seperate rooms so having dedicated midwives for you must be safer? (i know its different over here).
Mum to Jack (5), Harry (3) and Lucy (1).
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