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Ok, so DH and I had a long discussion and well... yea. We both feel uneasy about our current MW. Something just isn't clicking. I tried ignoring it, but after him spilling his guts, I agree with everything he feels and now we're just lost. So is it back to round 1 of going with our original mw for Kailey? It's frustrating... she's so much more expensive and our insurance won't kick in until November. Not only that, but I'm so timid. How can I tell my current mw we don't want to go with her? Our daughters go to the same daycare.... I don't want to have to face her, I'd feel SO embarrassed even though I know I shouldn't because this is OUR birth.
I don't have a mw I'm happy with. I HATE living here. I'm wanting to take my licensure by the beginning of October and I told DH that if I pass then we're moving ASAP back into the apartments where I was pregnant with Kailey at. I loved it there, he loved it there and it was huge.
I just feel so confused. I wish things were easier I just hate disappointing people..
And then sometimes I have a fleeting moment of thinking we'll just do everything UA, but I know DH wouldn't like that. There is an option of a BC in the next state over, but... ugh, I don't want to be disappointed again and I really want a homebirth. Everything just keeps pointing me back to my old MW. If I had more choices that would be great, but my old MW is the ONLY CNM around here and it just makes DH and I more comfy.
This is a situation where it's about YOU! If you are uncomfortable with her, then you need to switch. I understand hating to disappoint but if you're under care you're not happy with, then you're disappointing yourself as well. As others have said in one of the other threads, this is about you. If you're not happy, make sure you're happy.
Hopefully your current midwife will understand. Keep us updated.
I was going to use Suzanne (my previous MW) because of my heart, but during a checkup last year I found out that I no longer have the "bad" murmur anymore where I need medication in labor. My sister told me to just make something up about my heart so that I have an excuse! LOL! I know that is so bad, but I just feel terrible about telling her that we're switching (I know I shouldn't) because she really is sweet and lovely, she's just not what we're looking for.