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I looked online and found my midwifes website. Read over everything, we then went and met with her.
He didn't want to do it at first. I had him sit down and watch The Business of Being Born, then fully expressed why I did not want to go back to a hospital. He agreed to meet with the midwife to ask her questions and such. We met with her a few days later, he asked every question under the sun and when we left he told me to cancel my other appointment because we were going the home birth route.
I heard about mine at a AP parenting party. Initially I met her when I went to a friend's appointment. I did interview another midwife, but I just feel the most comfortable with her.
As for DH, his viewpoint is that birth is my body, my choice. He doesn't feel it's his place to question my decisions in that regard. We talked about it during my last pregnancy, so after she was born, he just assumed we were going to do a HB next time. He'd even be okay doing unassisted if that's what I want.
Kellisa, Mama to:
Courtney, Nola, Kya, and Whitney
Breastfeeding Peer Counselor, training to be an IBCLC!
I found mine online, made an appointment and after meeting them...was sold!! I really, really liked them. As far as DH, his mom had 4 homebirths and we're both very au natural when it comes to healthcare so there wasn't any convincing that needed to be done. I think I would've had to convince him if I decided I wanted to birth in a hospital. Hehe.
I called the ones that were near to me and asked who was available. All told me they weren't. LOL! I found one elsewhere, farther away who 9 weeks prior to my due date was unavailable and she arranged for another midwife to take over my care. So I "met" my midwife 9 weeks prior to her EDD and I met her face to face 4 weeks before her birth.
We found ours online. i had e-mailed one a few months earlier and they never got back to me. When i found our midwife she had just put up her website, she had retired and moved and decided to start up again, i was one of her first clients here. i was drawn to use her because of her professionalism, the other midwives i found seemed sloppy.
i hope i can refer her someday!
Thankfully I have a midwife in the family! She's my aunt, and helped raise me, so it's awesome! But online is a great resource for finding midwives. Calling some local Doulas for suggestions might work too.
For my partner being scared, I set him up on the computer and told him to research homebirth, an hour later he was all for it. He was also excited that with a homebirth he could be involved in the birth pretty much as much as he wanted to be.