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July 19th, 2009, 09:29 AM
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Could everyone please tell me how they feel about the two? I know the midwives could make it to my home in time because I labor for a long time but Im not sure I want them there and Im having conflicted feelings. If I just had a doula would that be unassisted? How do you feel about just having a doula present? BTW I dont know if it makes a difference but Dh is a firefighter/paramedic. He just did a L&D rotation and he feels totally confident in his ability to catch.


And to introduce myself since Dh and I have decided that we really want to have a homebirth, I am Sarah mommy to Brynn, Emme and baby #3 due in December and stepmommy to Autumn. Im a member of the NCB board so I know many of you already from there.
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July 19th, 2009, 10:57 PM
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I have had both types of births. Honestly, I prefer midwife cause they clean up & help you. LOL!

But to ask a doula to attend your unattended birth, well, it wouldn't really be unattended, not that a title is important. But unless you know her well I think (as a doula) that is a very unfair position to put her in. A doula is outside her scope when attending such a birth. I would also question why you would want a doula present but not a midwife, what do you want her to do?
If this sounds harsh it isn't meant to.
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July 20th, 2009, 07:45 PM
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No that isnt harsh at all. My midwife isnt very (whats the word) supportive during labor. She didnt help me move or change positions. I delivered on my back, something that I told her that I didnt want to do. She is very knowledgable just not very personable if that makes any sense. I dont have any other options for midwives attending a homebirth near me. No others are willing to drive this far.

Its not that I dont want her there I just dont think she is very helpful. In the event that something was to go "wrong" I would like her there but then I ask myself why not just go to a hospital. I would just want the doula to help me move around and to remind me to drink and pee. Basic things like that. I suppose my husband could do that but then again he wants to do the whole "delivery" himself.

Eh I guess Ill just wait until Im in labor and decide then. Haha.
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July 20th, 2009, 07:59 PM
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Do you have a good friend you could have to help you out instead? It seems like making a request sheet of "make sure I drink every 20 min and ask if I have to pee" and a list of positions you'd like her to suggest might suffice. And with Shea being a paramedic I would think you should be in good hands.
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July 21st, 2009, 09:56 AM
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Thats a good idea. I might just have a friend come over. I may need them here to help with the kids anyways if they start getting scared or in the way.

Im still going to tell my midwife that I am planning on her coming so if I decide I want her to come Shea can just call her. Otherwise I might just do an Oops he came too fast.
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August 20th, 2009, 10:59 AM
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As a doula I wouldn't attend a planned unassisted birth b/c I don't need or want that kind or responsibility or liability. I also just know too much to really feel comfortable with that situation.

With your history of dystocia I wouldn't plan or want an unassisted birth for sure, especially with your DH having the responsibility if anything went wrong. Having a well and thoroughly trained attendant with reses equipment could make all the difference in the world. I'm fairly well verserd in birth from doulaing and especially assisting, but I wouldn't feel comfortable with managing an unexpected outcome.

I do think you would really benefit from a doula though, since your midwife is a little more hands off and not there for the support part. But then it could be in addition to, not instead of.
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