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September 2nd, 2009, 02:13 PM
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Not of your own between each other. But do you compare your birth to other people's births?

Such as, can you separate your feelings towards one idea of birth (natural and home birthing) to another persons idea of birthing (medicated and hospital)?
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September 2nd, 2009, 02:50 PM
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I try not to but I sometimes do...
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September 2nd, 2009, 03:08 PM
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I don't compare births. I know everyone is different and their situations are different, so I can't say a homebirth is right for them etc.
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September 2nd, 2009, 04:25 PM
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I do...but more for a research brain....I like to see the type of people and what they pick and then MORE so I like to see the difference in personality of the baby when it gets here. Is it just me or is natural born babies more calm and less fussy then babies with drugs?
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September 2nd, 2009, 05:13 PM
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Hmmm thats a difficult question. I try really hard not to compare one experience to another... but sometimes its really hard.

When I was in labor with Kate, one of my oldest childhood friends was in labor back in my hometown. My mother and her mother are best friends, and my mom was present during my friends labor. Throughout my labor I'd get calls from my mom and friend to update me and vice versa. She was pregnant with her first, and had gone the OB route, but was set on a natural childbirth. She labored at my parents house all day, and then went into the hospital, she was able to labor naturally there as well, but a the evening and night progressed, she "had" to have pitocin, then the epidural came, then the c/s. As I was laboring at home and getting updates on her, I just felt so let down for her.... I knew it wasn't what she wanted, but despite her efforts an research it wasn't a choice she was given. It is hard for me not to compare our experiences, even though I know I shouldn't.
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September 2nd, 2009, 10:58 PM
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I do...but more for a research brain....I like to see the type of people and what they pick and then MORE so I like to see the difference in personality of the baby when it gets here. Is it just me or is natural born babies more calm and less fussy then babies with drugs?
Same here. And I so agree! It's so crazy and cool. I also think that natural birthed babies are a bit more alert
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September 3rd, 2009, 02:15 PM
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I had the opposite experience with my babies. My hospital baby was calm and less fussy, my HB baby was our fussy one!
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September 3rd, 2009, 04:37 PM
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That's interesting Marissa
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September 3rd, 2009, 08:56 PM
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I sometimes wonder if Elizabeth's calmness and alertness (EVERYONE kept commenting on it from day one) was because I did not really have drugs. The spinal went in less than 5 minutes before she was out. Even though nothing went how I wanted it to, I feel like at least I gave that to her.

It is hard for me not to "call" other people's births. Like you just KNOW which girls in your DDC will have a section.

It's just hard for me not to be jealous of girls who do everything "wrong" and get a vaginal birth when I did everything "right" and still got cut open.
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September 3rd, 2009, 09:06 PM
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Kellie, I know exactly how you feel. I decided instead of settling for the pick the next ones birthday route, I wanted to show myself that I wasn't broken and could do it the way I had hoped.

I hope you are able to have the birth the next time (if you plan on having another )
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September 3rd, 2009, 09:25 PM
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Thanks! I am totally already planning a HBAC! My midwife says I'm perfect for it and I will be a spinningbabies fiend (DD was stuck sideways).

I love the natural birth and home birth boards on this forum. It's the only place I feel like people really "get" how I feel about birth without me having to use 1,364,578 words to try to get it across.
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September 3rd, 2009, 09:36 PM
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! I saw a chiropractor to help make sure Dane stayed head own and anterior since Gage was head down and posterior.
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