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I am wondering how many are still participating here.
If you lurk and have had an HBAC, did you feel differently towards the HBAC baby then the c-section baby?
I have noticed my bonding with both boys are different. I love my Gage so much, don't get me wrong but I feel robbed of that instant bond. I didn't get to see him until he was 2 hours old.
Then with Dane, he was instantly put to my chest. I feel a bond with him that I didn't get with Gage. I have moments where I could bust into tears at the feeling of that loss. I am so thankful for both of them and love them equally.
I'm an HBAC hopeful. Both of my boys were traumatic births. Robbie was a preemie born at 26 weeks (NCB totally) and taken from me immediately since he needed help breathing. Bryce was a c-section (which I believe was caused by the AROM when he still wasn't engaged). I got to see Bryce for about 3 minutes before he was taken from me to the nursery... I never even got to touch him until after I was out of surgery since I was told that if I moved my arms that I would get tied down.
I am aiming for this birth to be safe for both me and the baby but I'd love to be able to hold the baby immediately like I've wanted to with the boys.
I plan to be an HBAC mom. I planned a homebirth with Elizabeth too that turned into a section for deep transverse arrest. This perfectly healthy mom did not get to see her perfectly healthy baby for 20 hours. Don't even get me started. I will never be OK with that.
Honestly looking back now at Gage's birth, so many things were done to me that should not have been. I was 19 when I had him and I thought I had a plan. I feel like they played me because of my age. Reading my medical records just outraged me. Remembering everything that was going on, one thing after another. I still ***** about it. I think it will take me a long long time to become okay with it.
I really hope you get your HBAC! I have a great bond with Gage but I am noticing differences between the boys at this age and how I felt. It makes me sad.