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  #1  
December 24th, 2009, 04:41 PM
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I want an unassisted homebirth. Does that mean I need to sacrifice prenatal care? Because my OBs are not at all okay with homebirthing
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December 24th, 2009, 05:50 PM
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I just wouldn't tell them that you're doing a home birth and continue with their care. Just have a "too quick" birth at home.
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December 24th, 2009, 09:02 PM
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yeah, that's what a lot of women do if they can't find a provider for a homebirth.
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December 25th, 2009, 04:36 AM
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I just wouldn't tell them that you're doing a home birth and continue with their care. Just have a "too quick" birth at home.
That's what I plan on doing. My OB has no clue what my plans are and I'm going to keep it that way. You could also consider getting your prenatal care from a midwife.
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December 25th, 2009, 06:51 PM
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Ditto to Tiff. You should still be able to get care as long as you don't tell them what your true intentions are.
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December 26th, 2009, 07:56 AM
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Ditto to Tiff. You should still be able to get care as long as you don't tell them what your true intentions are.
I agree. I wouldn't tell your doctor if you are planning to go unassisted.
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December 26th, 2009, 03:05 PM
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You don't have to tell them, or switch your care to a Midwife or OB who is fine with homebirthing.
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December 26th, 2009, 05:16 PM
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Some women prefer to keep going with care from their OBs, some switch to a back-up midwife, and some of us have an unassisted pregnancy where we manage our own care.

Personally I found with my first that having managed care made me worry more and trust my body and my self less. This time after making the connections I needed with a midwife who is comfortable with unassisted birth I chose to carry out the remainder of this pregnancy unassisted. I check my own BP, monitor my own weight, and fundal height. I know that for me personally I would not be able to have an unassisted birth with managed care, I need the months prior to get in touch with my instinct and learn to really listen to my self.
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December 28th, 2009, 03:02 AM
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Thanks for all of your answers. Does anyone happen to have a nice website that walks you through what prenatal appointments should be? I've already had my anatomy scan and everything looks great!
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December 28th, 2009, 05:26 PM
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Hey Lillian, good to see you here from the April '10 DDC! I agree with the others about just not telling your provider about your home birth plans.

From what I remember when pregnant with Lily everything from 25weeks out was just a BP check, weight check and measuring fundal height. There was the GD test and GBS swab as well but those aren't necessary. I would think you *could* manage your own care just fine if you felt it was necessary to do so. I'm not sure of a website that lists what happens at appts, but hopefully someone can point you to one!
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December 29th, 2009, 01:06 AM
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Thanks for all of your answers. Does anyone happen to have a nice website that walks you through what prenatal appointments should be? I've already had my anatomy scan and everything looks great!
The OB appointments I had with M were simple - pee in a cup (glucose and protein check), check baby's heartrate, measure fundal height, talk about upcoming tests (all of which I was refusing).

My MW appointments this time were, sit down on the couch, talk about how I've been feeling, talk about how her practice has been going, the last one she checked fundal height (at my request, I pointed out to her where I had felt it, she said yup that's it), and if you're comfortable with it check the baby's heartrate with doppler.

A good book to guide you through managing your own prenatal care (if I recall correctly) is Heart and Hands: a midwife's guide to pregnancy and birth by Elizabeth Davis. If it's the one I'm thinking of it has a basic rundown of typical midwife office visit paperwork for prenatal care
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December 29th, 2009, 12:41 PM
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Thanks!

I already made the mistake of telling them that I did not plan on a hospital birth unless medically necessary.
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December 30th, 2009, 03:23 PM
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Thanks!

I already made the mistake of telling them that I did not plan on a hospital birth unless medically necessary.
What did your OB say? I guess that's the only way to find out if they approve of a home birth or not.
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December 30th, 2009, 06:55 PM
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What did your OB say? I guess that's the only way to find out if they approve of a home birth or not.
She said that it was irresponsible and dangerous and that I would have a hard time finding another DR to see me or a pediatrician for the little one, with which I walked out of my appointment because I didn't expect her to come off like that.
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December 31st, 2009, 10:30 AM
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She said that it was irresponsible and dangerous and that I would have a hard time finding another DR to see me or a pediatrician for the little one, with which I walked out of my appointment because I didn't expect her to come off like that.
Good for you! I'd have been p'd off and asked her what her c-section rate was and pointed out the higher risk associated with intervention-heavy births.
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December 31st, 2009, 11:26 AM
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So I guess now I need to find a new DR or a midwife because I don't plan on going back there! I will have to though to get my cerclage removed. UGH

I wouldn't have minded a hospital birth if they hadn't told me about all of the hospital policies for monitoring and staying in the room and bed. I just think I'd be miserable!
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December 31st, 2009, 01:13 PM
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I don't get why she said it'd be hard to find a pedi for the baby if you have a home birth? That makes no sense to me. What does the pedi care about where the baby was born? I think she's just trying to scare you into a hospital birth more. I would either try to find a new doctor or just continue going to her but then deliver on your own.
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December 31st, 2009, 09:13 PM
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I told my kids's pedi about our upcoming homebirth, and she was all for it! She is harrasing you!!
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January 1st, 2010, 06:03 AM
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I'm really sorry you are having such a tough time. Even if you plan on going unassisted, seeing a midwife for prenatal care might be nice. Good luck.
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January 1st, 2010, 12:26 PM
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My son was born in a freestanding birth center attended by a midwife, but I was quite easily able to schedule him an appointment to see my own general practitioner. They didn't care at all where he was born or who attended, but only how it went medically. I don't think you'll have trouble finding a physician for your little one. Good luck! I hope you are able to have the birth and prenatal care you want!
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