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January 19th, 2010, 12:13 AM
CameraLinds's Avatar Zane & Jude's mama
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bad news I'm afraid...i did have a miscarriage (my levels dropped, the tests got lighter and negative)

we've been having a really hard time with it. especially with the fact that my only friend here (DH's best friend's wife...the one I vented before about being prego...is complaining on morning sickness and looking like crap....I WOULD GIVE ANYTHING, to be in her shoes. I would go through morning sickness to have a baby in the end. Morning sickness is much easier than suffering through the loss of a child.)
And with this angel baby's due date would have been a week before her baby, is making it really hard...i'm always going to be reminded of our angel baby in a harder way than I wanted/hoped.

Honestly it's the hardest thing I've ever gone through. I can't stop wondering, why, what happened, and will it happen again? I longed for that baby...and know he/she is gone. DH is having a really hard time with it too.

We're praying that we'll conceive again soon and we won't m/c. I just pray to God that we conceive again with a sticky bean before this baby's EDD of Sept. 15.
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January 19th, 2010, 07:38 AM
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((HUGS)) hun!!!!! I'm so very sorry for your loss. I had a very hard time after my loss last year. My SIL announced her pregnancy a few weeks later, and I remember feeling so bad for crying and being so jealous. I think those feelings are all normal after you experience a loss. ((HUGS))
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January 19th, 2010, 07:43 AM
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thanks Christine
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January 19th, 2010, 07:46 AM
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Oh Lindsey, I am so sorry. I'm sorry you even have to go through that and then on top of it all deal with someone like her.

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January 19th, 2010, 08:00 AM
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Thanks Marisa
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January 19th, 2010, 08:34 AM
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I'm so sorry for your loss and that your friend isn't being more supportive and understanding
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January 19th, 2010, 08:39 AM
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So sorry for your loss
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January 19th, 2010, 09:13 AM
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I'm sorry you and your DH are going through this.
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January 19th, 2010, 09:30 AM
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January 19th, 2010, 10:02 AM
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I'm so sooo sorry! ((Hugs)) Praying for you!
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January 19th, 2010, 02:06 PM
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Big hugs Linds! My homebirth baby Tesla, who was born in December, is my rainbow baby. I had a loss in December 08. Tesla was born one week before my angelversary. I was 10 1/2 wks, and had a very difficult time with it. If you haven't visited the Pregnancy Loss board, they are a wonderful group of ladies, as are the ladies on the TTC After Loss board. Or if you want to PM me, feel free to do so!
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January 19th, 2010, 02:38 PM
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I'm so sorry for your loss Lindsey!
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January 19th, 2010, 03:45 PM
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is there a way you can separate yourself from her for a while?
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January 24th, 2010, 07:51 AM
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is there a way you can separate yourself from her for a while?
She's actually going back to the states to be with her mom...she's got HG again with her pregnancy. She'll be gone till July. So I'm actually kind of glad, sounds terrible, I know but it will make my healing/grieving much much easier! And hopefully without the depression/stressed/heartache she was reminding me with hopefully getting prego with our sticky rainbow baby will happen ASAP!

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Big hugs Linds! My homebirth baby Tesla, who was born in December, is my rainbow baby. I had a loss in December 08. Tesla was born one week before my angelversary. I was 10 1/2 wks, and had a very difficult time with it. If you haven't visited the Pregnancy Loss board, they are a wonderful group of ladies, as are the ladies on the TTC After Loss board. Or if you want to PM me, feel free to do so!
Thank you. I didn't know Tesla is your rainbow baby. (how soon after your loss did you get pg again if you don't mind me asking?)
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January 24th, 2010, 12:00 PM
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I'm sorry that you are going through this. I hope you can conceive again soon.
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January 24th, 2010, 01:21 PM
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3 mos. It wasn't long (especially after taking 9 mo with our first and 5 mo with our loss) but I can tell you no matter how soon you get pg, it feels like an eternity! Steel yourself! And it was a little difficult to have the weird mix of emotions a week later when my angelversary arrived, but I had a newborn to care for. It's a rough road to travel, but it can be done.
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January 24th, 2010, 06:12 PM
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I am so so sorry - Unfortunately I know how hard it is too. Big Big hugs! My EDD with my first was Sept 10th. (same day I got my BFP with this baby) I also had a friend who was due just after Sept 10th. It's a bit hard to see her little girl now - but it does really help to have mine on their way. The PAL board and TTCAL boards are both awesome. Much love!
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January 24th, 2010, 08:39 PM
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I'm sorry for your loss. I'll be keeping your family in my thoughts.

I too think that your feelings towards your friend are all completely natural. My sister announced her pregnancy on what was my angel baby's due date four years ago. It's hard to heal when you have such a reminder of the pain. At least your friend will be further away, so you can distance yourself a little while you need to.
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January 25th, 2010, 07:51 AM
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I just wanted to say how sorry I am for your loss.
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