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January 30th, 2010, 05:01 PM
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OK, this doesn't even belong on this board probably, but it is about home birth, and since I'm already here and it is in my head I just wanted to ask. Now I see the "unassisted birth stories" (I even just went in there and read one). I can't imagine having an unassisted birth, if I do home birth, it had better darn well be assisted! But I have always had this kind of fear that I've never really had the chance to test out at all...

If you are planning a home birth, that's fabulous, but if you aren't and you have one, I think that'd be scary.

And so here's my thing, I was induced 2 out of 3 times that I have given birth. The first time I had a baby I went into labor on my own, and I went to the hospital...8cm dilated. I've always feared that since later births go faster that I could have an unplanned home birth. Like for instance with LJ, I went from 7cm to 10cm in one contraction, I had been at 7cm for a long while, they suggested I turn on my side, and bam I was ready to push. And then 3 pushes later it was over. So from 7cm to birth very quickly. So I just have this fear that if I put my labors together, where I decided it is time to do something at 8cm and then I go from that point to pushing pretty instantly, I suddenly have an unplanned unassited situation.

Have you ever worried about that happening?
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January 30th, 2010, 05:39 PM
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I know what you mean, but no, I've never really worried about it to much, because, in my opinion, if baby comes that fast, it usually means that there weren't any complications! I also just try to trust my body, and remind myself that women have been doing this safely for thousands of years, without medical assistance! So there's no need to panic! Just call the ambulance, and someone will be there shortly to help you/take you to the hospital (if you need/want it that is).

Now after saying all that....I am NOT planning on having an unassisted birth! Just because I would feel more comfortable having someone else there who knows what's going on in case I should run into any complications...but as I said before, if baby comes so fast that my midwife isn't able to make it in time, then I probably didn't need her anyway!

Anyway...that's just me! Maybe I'll be considered naive, or too trusting, but I prefer it that way!
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January 30th, 2010, 06:00 PM
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for my 2nd birth which was my first home birth, my midwife lived about 1.5 hours away, my 2nd birth was quick, my water broke at noon and baby was born about 5.5 hours later, my midwife was about 15-20 minutes late, her assistant made it on time though, so she delivered her very first baby

I loved my birth even though my midwife missed it, I wasn't worried or stressed at all during my labor, I felt like everything was going just fine and it was.
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January 31st, 2010, 02:44 AM
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I've read up on it because - well - you never know. Where I live you could get snowed in! Soo - from what I have read - if your birth is so fast you can't get to a hospital or your midwife misses it - you and baby will be just fine! There is no time for anything to go wrong. You will have a rush of energy as soon as baby is out and the urge to sit up - do it! Look at your baby and make sure the water bag is broken - if it's still on the baby take it off, Also look for the chord - if it's wrapped around the babies neck carefully unwrap it. Nursing should help you stop bleeding and get the placenta out.
This is everything I remember - but if you look it up you can fine more info.
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January 31st, 2010, 07:31 AM
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Am I concerned that it could happen, sure. Am I afraid of it happening, no. My last labor was 3 hours and 10 minutes (my water broke, then I only had contractions for 2 hours) and I made it to the birth center 15 minutes before DS was born. This time my midwife and came to the conclusion that a homebirth would be a good idea from the get go. We both know that I tend to go fast, so she just recruited an extra assistant so that it's more likely for someone to make it here and left an emergency birth kit in case they don't. Like someone else said, typically really fast births don't have many complications.
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January 31st, 2010, 08:07 AM
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I'm not really worried about it. My midwife has just missed a birth a few times and when that happens she will be on the phone with whoever is present and guide them through what to do. I am confident that my DH would do a great job supporting me and welcoming our baby if my midwife was for any reason delayed.
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January 31st, 2010, 12:03 PM
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I'm not really worried about it. My midwives are about 20-30 minutes away and they're planning to come over the second my water breaks or I have my first contraction because my labor with Lily was 6.5 hours and I'm afraid this one might be shorter. DH has some EMT training and would be okay delivering the baby if necessary. Plus, my parents live with us and my mom is a retired Urgent Care physician and delivered lots of babies. She's supposed to be out of town when the baby is due though.

My midwives told me that if I do deliver before they get here then it's important to just keep baby warm and try to nurse.
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January 31st, 2010, 12:31 PM
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Not afraid of it at all. If you prepare yourself for a homebirth your midwife should prepare you for what to do if she can't make it in time. I'm ordering my birth kit today so I will have plenty of time to make sure I am familiar with everything and what to do. I'd prefer to have someone there just in case, but the odds of needing assistance are slim. I plan on having my midwife in the other room the entire time.
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January 31st, 2010, 04:02 PM
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I've read up on it because - well - you never know. Where I live you could get snowed in! Soo - from what I have read - if your birth is so fast you can't get to a hospital or your midwife misses it - you and baby will be just fine! There is no time for anything to go wrong. You will have a rush of energy as soon as baby is out and the urge to sit up - do it! Look at your baby and make sure the water bag is broken - if it's still on the baby take it off, Also look for the chord - if it's wrapped around the babies neck carefully unwrap it. Nursing should help you stop bleeding and get the placenta out.
This is everything I remember - but if you look it up you can fine more info.
Great summery! The one thing I just remembered, and would add, is something my Bradley Birth Instructor told us (she was actually explaining what to do if you should have the baby in the car on the way to the hospital)- As soon as baby is born, bring baby up to the breast, and cover over both baby & momma with a blanket. Then once the plecenta had been delivered, lay the baby WITH the plecenta up against momma's skin, and then wrap a towel/blanket around them(I know, this sounds messy). Your goal is to keep baby as warm as possible!
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January 31st, 2010, 08:20 PM
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haha this thread has told me one thing, I don't belong here, lol. I think I'll be finding myself at the hospital in June, lol. Thanks for the help ladies.
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February 1st, 2010, 07:54 AM
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What? Why? I'm confused! - You know the book I found the info on what to do if you end up giving birth alone - described a situation where a mom gave birth alone in the hospital. The nurses didn't believe her about how soon she would be giving birth and went for coffee. I actually know a lady who was planning a hospital birth - and she realized - when baby was crowning at home - she had better just stay put and have the baby! - not to scare you or anything - just don't give up on home birth because you have fast babies! Talk to your midwife about what the plan is and how quick she is.
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February 1st, 2010, 02:07 PM
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to sodagirl. Unassisted birth OFTEN happens in hospitals too! DRs very often miss it and it is just a nurse "catching"
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February 1st, 2010, 05:19 PM
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to sodagirl. Unassisted birth OFTEN happens in hospitals too! DRs very often miss it and it is just a nurse "catching"

don't turn away so quickly, homebirths really are neat and safe. If you were to deliver before your midwife arrived, atleast you would know she is on her way and should be there shortly, she should also train you or tell you what you and your DH would need to do if this were to happen. Ask your midwife how often she has missed births.You should talk with your midwife and let her know all of your concerns so she can help ease your mind and see if a homebirth is right for you or not.

have you ever watched "the business of being born" ?
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