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My name is Jodi and I'm pregnant with #3. I have a 4 year old and almost 2 year old. I live in Northern Ontario and I'm planning a water birth at home with the same midwives who attended my first two births. It's mostly the water birth I want, to be able to move around during labour but from everything I'm hearing, I'll need to do this at home. They have a birthing tub at the hospital but apparently, you are only allowed to labour in it and not actually birth. I think that's dumb but I don't make the rules! Now I just need to get DH totally on board but he doesn't even want to talk about this until we are further along I'm really hoping to get to know everyone on this board and get some resources to make sure I can make this my perfect birth since it will likely be my last.
hi! welcome and congrats on number 3! I would say now is the perfect time to be discussing it because it can make your plans for prenatal care different. I'm not sure how midwifery and homebirthing works in Canada, do the midwives you used in the past attend home births?
homebirthing, tandem nursing, cosleeping, babywearing, picky vaxing, cloth diapering Christian doula mama
I had half planned for a home birth with our last baby so he knows it's coming but doesn't want to talk about it until it's closer... he doesn't even want to talk about our out of town Easter plans because we aren't close enough yet Our midwives were the ones encouraging a home birth since I'm a good candidate but I chickened out at the last minute not wanting to upset DH as he wasn't completely certain but he's now better with the idea since he saw how easy and flawless our last birth was.
We talked a bit last night about it. He brought up the concern about the mess. I explained that not only do the midwives clean, they often help cook a meal after the birth too. He told me I could go over to the midwife's house to have the baby It's going to be funny to see her reaction when I tell her that!
I'm glad you and DH are talking, its such a big decision and I notice a lot of DH's aren't completely on board right away.... and lots of times its because of concerns about "the mess" or other "what ifs". I know that once my DH sat down and asked all his questions with our midwives he was MUCH more comfortable with our plans.
Welcome to the board! I've had two water births, one at home, and am planning my next homebirth (likely to be in water). I've never had a natural birth outside of the water!