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  #1  
April 16th, 2010, 02:52 PM
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My DH almost exclusively works from home, so I really wasn't worried about where he was gonna be or time off, etc. He might take a day or two actually off but even when he went back to work his schedule is flexible enough that he could help out.

But now he is roped into this huge new project at work where he is required to be on site indefinitely. And it isn't just 9-5, it's like 80 hours a week. This current project is finishing up but they are starting a new one May 8th and going for at least a week. Dh feels like he can back off around that time, May 15th, as long as they don't start another project soon. Well I am due May 25th. His boss on this new project has a pregnant wife as well and she is due like 5 or 6 days after me.

He tried to talk to him a little bit about the schedule going forward and the babies coming and this guy's response was... "Oh that's not a big deal! I'll take a day or two but that's it." We were thinking he would scale it back a bit around that time and make it easier for DH to scale back as well, but apparently that isn't the case.

I'm trying really hard not to worry about it right now seeing as we have a ways to go and things are changing every two mins there. But a big part of the reason I decided on a home birth is to have this intimate experience for our family and I was full expecting DH to be around the whole time! I don't want to have to give birth and then him dash out the next day!

I know I have been spoiled with him working from home for so long, but it seems like dad's in a normal corporate environment are taking some vacation days. And yes, DH has those available but he is scared that this project is gonna run away without him if he takes time off. There is a potential promotion on the line for him. But I am just so upset! I was envisioning this great family bonding time after this peaceful home birth. Now I feel like I might as well go to the dang hospital! I'm not really... just being pouty!

ANyway, so what are your SO's doing about work? Are they taking vaca time? Using FMLA?
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April 16th, 2010, 03:30 PM
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With my 1st, my husband was home a week, same with our 2nd. This time finances are a bit different so he'll probably be home 2-3 days but will go back to work after that.
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April 16th, 2010, 04:10 PM
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My DH works a 4 on, 2 off schedule. Depending where on the schedule he is when I have the baby determines how much work he will take off. He will certainly take off one "set" meaning we'll have at least 8 days of him home. However if I have the baby in the middle of one set, we'll have a couple extra days with him. I'm actually at a point that I don't want him to be off more than a week or two. He's helpful, but sometimes its easier for me to get back into a routine when he goes back to work.
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April 16th, 2010, 04:12 PM
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April 16th, 2010, 06:01 PM
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My DH is planning to take the summer off - in Canada we can do that. However - he didn't actually book time off till June - and my due date is May 20 - so I don't know what going to happen if I give birth in the beginning of May . . . I kinda thought he'd tell them he's off when baby comes. IDK. (Really hope baby stays put till the end of may - I'm hoping to work thru May - so things could get nuts fast!)
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April 16th, 2010, 07:36 PM
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With Jonah, DH couldn't really take any time off. I went into the hospital on a Wed, and had Jonah on Friday, so that was pretty much the whole time that he could take off. Then he had the weekend, and Jonah and I stayed with my mom Sunday night-Tuesday, then I went home and was on my own. I didn't like being without DH, but I couldn't be alone with the baby (I was passing out) and my mom couldn't come to stay with us.

With this one, DH is supposed to have two weeks of vacation that he can take when the baby comes. But I am not sure that he's going to take it. He's in the middle of a huge project too. He can work from home though so I'm only a little worried about having time with him. I really like his new job; they are more family oriented when it comes to their employees. His last company didn't give a rat's tail about things like this.
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April 16th, 2010, 07:53 PM
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With DD G took off three days... I was pretty PO'd because his boss promised him six days - he just didn't feel like taking it (thought it would mean boss would "owe him on later"). This was after missing the birth because he didn't want to leave work. I was ticked.

This time I don't care - he can be here or not, I've done it by myself and I know my family and some of his will be around to help with M.
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April 16th, 2010, 09:06 PM
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mine will take off a few days, lots of variables. depends on what day of the week I have baby, how I am recovering, how claire is coping with baby, how busy he is at work, etc.

basically he usually takes off 5+ days however that works out.
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April 16th, 2010, 10:50 PM
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DD came 2 weeks early so DH had to call in for 2 of his shifts, and then worked 2 days, and then took an entire month off because he had PTO, comp, and sick time he had to use up before the end of the year!

It was nice to be home with him that long after the birth, I hope to plan our next pregnancies so we can have fall babies and he can use time like that again...
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April 17th, 2010, 09:43 AM
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With DS, DH took off 2 weeks, called in saying he wasn't coming in when I was in labor and his 2 weeks started from then.

He is doing the same this time around.
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April 17th, 2010, 10:34 AM
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DH took sick/vacation leave for a week this time. Then FMLA kicked in and he gets paid family leave with that here (55% of pay). So he was doing that and the plan was he'd stay home with us for 5 weeks with that. But then his work called and they really needed him so he's working a little bit for them but getting full pay even though he's not doing full hours. And then they're giving him an extra 2 weeks fully off at the end of April/beginning of May to make up for that.
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April 17th, 2010, 02:21 PM
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He will take at least three days off to be home while I stay in bed with the new baby. His schedule is great - goes to work around 2 and gets home between 7-8. He does work a full day on Saturdays though and he may reduce those hours and take some vacation time.
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April 18th, 2010, 07:29 AM
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DH was unemployed when DD was born and started working once she was about 3 months old. That was heaven. This time the plan is for him to take 3 weeks off with FMLA when baby comes.
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April 18th, 2010, 08:58 AM
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DH is going back to school on Monday. Recovery has been going great, so I'm not very worried. He said if I need anything to call him and he'd come straight home. My mom does daycare not too far from me, so if she needs to take Hunter (our oldest) she can.
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