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My daughter was 8lbs 14oz, got completely stuck and needed to be delivered with a vacuum assistance, had meconium in her fluid and I had an immediate postpartum hemorrhage..
However, I really was disappointed in being rushed ("You need to hurry up. The women who were supposed to deliver after you already had their babies"), threatened ("If you don't push harder, you're going to have a c-section. You're not even trying") and just plain stressed out by my daughter's birth that if I decide to have another down the road (not anytime soon. As of now, I'm 18 and a single mother. I'm talking 10 years from now) I'd really like a homebirth with the help of a midwife..
But am I 'allowed' or would it be a silly idea? The complications from my daughter's birth make me worried that I can't have a child naturally..
but part of me wonders if their breaking of my water, using pitocin to "hurry things up" and putting massive stress on me caused some of the complications..
I don't want to put a future child at risk, but I want to avoid the stress of the pressure to hurry up and deliver at the hospital..
Thank you for any advice!!
first off, I am SO sorry you were treated that way, that is heartbreaking. If I had people yelling at me like that I wouldn't have been able to push either!
Big baby that needed assistance doesn't rule you out, positioning can help with that, and meconium doesn't rule you out either. The cause and severity of your hemorrhage would be the part that I would look into, but it still doesn't rule you out.
homebirthing, tandem nursing, cosleeping, babywearing, picky vaxing, cloth diapering Christian doula mama
i'm sorry to hear you were treated/talked to that way. sounds very similar to how the docs/nurses talked to my mom with me....treatened her with a caesaran...etc.
I think its a defininte possibility alll the interventions and then with how you were talked to and treated, affected your birth with the complications. I definitely think/believe that a calmer/peaceful/happier environment could have/would have possibly changed your birth experience/outcome.
I definitely think it's possible!! Firstly, pushing anything bigger than a lemon out while flat on your back can be difficult! That's probably one of the things that drives me most crazy about hospital birthing. Secondly, pitocin could easily cause the meconium and the hemorrhaging. Some doctors/nurses really drive me crazy!
Since you are so far out from having another baby you have PLENTY of time to get educated. Read birth stories, find some GOOD books on pregnancy and birth.
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