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October 21st, 2010, 10:42 AM
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I read this in Debbie's birth story, and I thought it was something important that I don't think we've talked about here before.

I know for my births, that things were always slow when my kids were awake and I was caring for them... but things always picked up when they went to bed or were napping because I felt like I could focus on my birth then.

Did anyone else go through anything similar?
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October 21st, 2010, 12:45 PM
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With my last birth it was at a center so it wasn't the same. We didn't have our kids with us so I was not in mommy mode at all all day long. THIS time we are doing a homebirth...I'm not sure what we will do with the kiddos. I want them there so they can have bonding when it's time....but I also know that it's going to be a handful to have them there...Olive will want only me and I wont be able to care for her....NOt really sure on all this yet.
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We aren't to give a baby milk, berries, or peanut butter. We are to introduce new foods one at a time. But it's OK to inject several viruses, bacteria, aluminum, formaldehyde, phenoxyethanol, animal serum, mercury, squalene and more into an 8 week old? I don't think so.
In order to be healthy it is an unfortunate fact that people must be allowed the opportunity to be ill. I trust my body and those of my children to work correctly against the relatively benign diseases they vax for, and do not trust the ingredients in the vaccinations.
Our choice to not vax isn't based in ignorance, poverty, conspiracy theory and rumor. It's research, common sense, fact and evidence based..something the medical community has largely forgot about.
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October 21st, 2010, 05:19 PM
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I know what you mean. I really wanted my girls there for Paul's birth for that bonding time after.... but when it came down to it, they were a complete distraction not to mention, they are young, so they needed and wanted me. I think if I only had one there, it would have been different, but I had a 5 year old, 3 year old and a 2 year old there.... it was a lot. They ended up getting picked up by my inlaws, and they kept them overnight. I am happy I had that one on one time with my DH and baby after the birth.
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October 21st, 2010, 06:20 PM
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I have no clue how my.kiddos will be. I know after I had my second Dd1 was in the.waiting room and came in right away and stayed the night with us. With my son it was a bit before they came. But now with doing a homebirth and not living by family I'm not sure how things will go
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October 22nd, 2010, 05:58 AM
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That is great the hospital let you do that. I've never heard of that until a couple people on here said it recently....

My kids have always seen them the next day...which I hate....

My oldest has asked to be there when we have the baby...I have no problem with that...she'll be almost 9....she can stay back and she can offer support and such....my son will be almost 7...not sure he'd even want to be there....we are a very open family....he's seen me naked....I'm not worried about that part....I like that he doesn't think much of boobs and such....my middle daughter will be 5....too young for quiet probably....not sure what she'd be like...and my youngest will be 2.5....she'd be IN the water with me...crying if we said no...etc....basing it off of her personality right now.

If I trusted my IL's that'd be great...LOL....I thought about asking MIL to come HERE and watch them HERE (she's never been present for a birth before).....so the littles could be in another room watching a movie or something....if it's at night she wont be needed....but my last baby we labored through the night and all the next day for her to be born at 6ish pm.

Definitely something we'll have to talk a lot about.
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We aren't to give a baby milk, berries, or peanut butter. We are to introduce new foods one at a time. But it's OK to inject several viruses, bacteria, aluminum, formaldehyde, phenoxyethanol, animal serum, mercury, squalene and more into an 8 week old? I don't think so.
In order to be healthy it is an unfortunate fact that people must be allowed the opportunity to be ill. I trust my body and those of my children to work correctly against the relatively benign diseases they vax for, and do not trust the ingredients in the vaccinations.
Our choice to not vax isn't based in ignorance, poverty, conspiracy theory and rumor. It's research, common sense, fact and evidence based..something the medical community has largely forgot about.
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October 23rd, 2010, 06:23 AM
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For me it was the same. Things went slow in the day when people were here and Hunter was running around. But as soon as I was alone for awhile at night things went really fast and Liev was born a few hours later.
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October 24th, 2010, 06:22 AM
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I'm not really sure how it affected me. With #2, my labor was only 4 1/2 hours from start to birth, and ds1 wasn't awake. We woke him up right after she came out. I had thought that having him awake would distract me, so I prayed extensively that God would let me labor while he was asleep.

With #3, he was posterior from 18w on and I expected a long, tough labor. Contractions came every 11 minutes for 3 days, speeding up while dd nursed and for an hour or so after, and then spacing out just a bit when I'd get into bed (I took a half dose of Benedryl at dh's suggestion each of the 3 nights and contractions would space out to 30 minutes apart so I could sleep between them and then just get up on all 4's during). They picked up to 7m apart on the 4th morning and I sent dh to work at 7:30. By noon they were 5 minutes apart, and by 1 wanted him to come home and take care of me-and the kids . I stopped timing them after that, but when he did finally get home around 2ish they had slowed down a bit and I rested for a little while. Ds2 was born at 4:30ish, but I think I had been fully dilated for an hour before. I guess I don't really think having the kids around affected labor much.

For this time, I'm not sure what I think will happen. I kind of want to labor/deliver at night, but I guess I'm not really feeling like it's THAT important to have that happen after surviving a long labor while being the main caretaker of the kids for most of it. I mostly just don't want the kids to see her coming out down there, I'm not ready for those kinds of talks yet, and I don't think that they need to see it I guess. That anxiety could draw labor out I suppose, so that I do end up delivering at night after they're in bed. But on the other hand, I can also see me going into labor during the day while dh is at work, and since the baby is properly positioned this time, cruising through and hoping dh makes it in time.
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