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Hello, and welcome! I don't know your full story, but personally I would be very anxious about the possibility of an unplanned homebirth, especially if I had had a history of excessive bleeding. Planned homebirths are almost always safer than unplanned ones. If a homebirth is what you really want to have, then why don't you just schedule a midwife and begin making plans for one? I don't understand why you would want to leave a decision like that up until the moment labor actually started (not trying to be judgmental, just asking).
With my homebirth, our midwives did give us a handout ahead of time about "what to do if the baby arrives before the midwives." I had a history of fast labors, and they thought I might end up needing it. (I almost did!) It wasn't exactly this, but it looked something like this: Emergency Delivery: What to do if the baby arrives before you reach the hospital, by BabyPartner But that's operating under the assumption that once the baby is born you're just trying to keep him warm and safe until the midwives get there and can check him out for you. Basically, you're just trying to stabilize everyone and then wait for help. If you're not planning to have any medical personnel come at all, then the procedure might be different.
having had three planned and assisted homebirths in the past and a history of heavy bleeding I cant say I would necessarily go for an unassisted homebirth. However, that said, I am exteremely unfond of one of the mw's at the hospital and haven't even talked myself out of the possibility of just staying home to deliver myself.
I have prepped my dh for this possibility though so he would know when to call for help if it was needed.
I would say, honestly, clamping and cutting the cord is not that big a concern. If you really think your dh would pass out then who would be there to help you and baby if you pass out?
Good luck in your decision. I really understand how you feel. I wish I could have another assisted hb, but the cost is just too high right now.
I would love to have an unassisted home birth. However my last birth was at home and I bled alot. I ended up passing out when I got up to go to the bathroom. My hubby won't consider doing it alone now and I don't really blame him. Had that not happened the first time I would push alot harder for an unassisted birth.
Jenny - Wife to James - Mommy to Amara(8), Kayori (6),
and Rinoa (1)
missing our Angels 2001, 2005, and 2010
If the sole reason you'd want a home birth is because of the doctor you dislike, why not just switch practices? You'd have plenty of time to do that since your just 21 wks now.
Urban Momma makes a good point, if dh and you pass out who's going to get help? Don't think I'm telling you not to do it, but being higher risk for excessive bleeding, you need to really think this through and do whats best for you and baby to deliver safely. Another thought, if the OB you didn't like was on when you went in, couldn't you refuse and have them get his back up. As far as I know there is always more then one OB in case of multiple deliveries at the same time. Good luck with whatever you decide.