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I go back and forth on this one. On one hand the introvert in me thinks it sounds great! and my husband is a critical care paramedic, so it's not like he's clueless in case of an emergency. But on the other hand, he's not a skilled midwife, who from experience can foresee problems and treat or act on them before they get out of hand. I guess in the end, I like someone who will be respectful and hands-off, but I still like having that experience and expertise of a midwife present.
I don't like the idea of putting all the responsibility on DH to respond to an emergency. Even with all the reading in the world, he's not trained for that. Even with all of my knowledge and medical training, how can I guarantee that I would be in a frame of mind to direct him??? I could be passed out or something.
Even though the odds are pretty high that everything would go just fine, I'd worry about that small chance that something goes wrong. I just feel better having my MW sitting in the corner, just in case. She really isn't much more involved than that, she's just there to watch for a problem and act if there is one.
I've had to toss the idea back and forth depending on where we were moving too. Now that we've bought land and have moved I did some research and there is a MW about 30min from me so I'll check her out (and find more if there are more) and go with that. BUT, if we had really moved to where there weren't any MW's DH and I understood that we'd be doing an unassisted birth.