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January 21st, 2014, 10:16 PM
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How do you feel about people's thoughts about your birth choices and your parenting? Do you care what they think or does it not bother you?
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January 22nd, 2014, 06:24 AM
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Kinda.

I care because I wish more people were open, less ignorant, more supportive and caring of differences.

No, as in, I understand people are different and have different beliefs, and what I do is best for me and my family.

People can be different and disagree without being rude, but I don't find that often, and rudeness hurts my feelings so that's why I care. I'm a pretty sappy person
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January 22nd, 2014, 12:31 PM
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I care so much, I've gotten better but it's so hard not to care. I mainly care about what my family thinks. Mainly my parenting choices and not so much my births.
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January 22nd, 2014, 01:32 PM
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I don't care. I raised 5 fabulous, loving, trustworthy, intelligent, beautiful kids on my own - if that's parenting the wrong way then I'm sticking with being wrong! I know I have made mistakes, believe me, but its about priorities and the big picture. I pick my battles and keep my eye on the ultimate outcome - how they will turn out as adults.

I have no problem "educating" people who wish to express an opinion on my parenting style! But I don't preach to anyone unless they start it
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January 22nd, 2014, 04:15 PM
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nope, not one little bit. It bothers me when people make dumb statements about homebirth but thats just because ignorance ticks me off
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January 23rd, 2014, 07:30 AM
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Hi! Im sort of lurking (I havent had a home birth, due to insurance, however Ive had natural, med free births) It does bother me. Esp when I am given advice by people who werent great parents. One of these ladies even tried to say they were calling cps because she didnt think we were good parents. (This was coming from a person who chose drugs over her children for a period of time) So that really hurt... because I wondered what had we done wrong for her to say that!? Apparently it was because we put our kids on time out and because I was teaching my one and half old to help out. (Put his plate in the sink using his little step stool, throwing his diapers away (after he was changed) or throwing things in the garbage when asked, just little things that we made a game of like helping me put away toys or getting toys for his nb brother) But you really cant ket it botheryou, I try to remember that I am raising them to grow into respectful, kindhearted, helpful, "strong" adults... and everytime I see them using their manners, helping out, sharing and being kind to others, I know Im doing something right.
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January 23rd, 2014, 08:58 AM
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It's times like ^ where I am grateful for the internet where I can get support from other people like me!

And my kids loved throwing away their own diapers
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January 24th, 2014, 03:16 PM
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Doesn't bother me. I'm confident we are making the best choices for our family. That is not to say they are the best choices for everyone's family though!
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January 24th, 2014, 11:04 PM
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I'm really working on it. I've gotten so much better. It becomes easier as I get older.
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January 25th, 2014, 06:43 AM
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I think it's gotten easier (so far) because I'm not around any family or friends so I don't get all the comments b/c I'm not there any more.

However, who knows what's going to happen in this small town once they hear I'm HBing or see me with a baby wrap or something...sheesh. LOL
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January 25th, 2014, 08:52 AM
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oh im sure people have a lot to say about how i parent, i just dont worry about it anymore, its not worth wasting my time with it, i have better things to think about now
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