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July 11th, 2014, 02:01 AM
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Okay, since I'm NOT going to see the HB MW before I my OB's practice next monday, should I wait to bring up the topic of my desire to have a HB? I've only met with the MWs so far. I don't even know if MY OB knows I'm PG. The MW I will be meeting with Monday is the most laid back MW in the practice as far as I know. This is my fist time meeting with her and will probably be my last time since they pass you around like a joint in this practice. There are several more MWs left to "see" and then I'm not sure but I might get passed through to the OBs too! Very impersonal. Anyway, I was reading that I shouldn't tell or I'll risk them kicking me out of the practice. The HB MW is a CPM not a CNM. Doesn't she still have to work under a physician or have a back up OB in case of transfer? With my last PG I was secretly planning a possible unassisted home birth, and one of my OBs must have figured it out or something cause SHE was the one who brought up the option for me to do a HB and offered to back me up and support me. I was shocked! I wasn't ready to bring the topic up to DH though, and I don't know if he would have gone for it last time so I adamantly denied my want for a homebirth. I'm really upset and disappointed that she is no longer with the practice. So... any opinions?
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July 11th, 2014, 03:03 AM
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Backup OB for homebirth?? - Mothering Forums

After reading this thread I'm feeling a bit better. I just assumed I had to have a back up OB. I guess that isn't really the case! I'll have one JIC, but I'll have to keep quiet at work which is disappointing cause I really wanted to tell others I was planning a HB. I'll still ask the HB MW about it when I go in for my next appt, but I'm okay keeping it hush, hush for my OB practice. I'm sure more OBs would be supportive if it wasn't for the stupid malpractice insurance ruling how they practice medicine!
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July 11th, 2014, 06:39 AM
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I bet the MWs have been asked this before. Ask her on Monday if she has advice of how to broach the subject (or not) with your OB. Best of luck and congratz
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July 11th, 2014, 11:17 AM
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I have had 2 HBs and we knew what hospital we would transfer to I needed but I didn't see an OB as back up. Welcome to the board!
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July 11th, 2014, 12:18 PM
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Thanks! I have a history of PTL but no preterm delivery. I anticipate problems with PTL this time due to the nature of my job, but I do NOT anticipate a preterm birth, just so long as I am taken off work if/when I start having issues. I just need to make it to 37 weeks! So, I need a back up OB JIC I have complications again. I think I will keep it hush hush about the homebirth though.

So, how and when do I bring it to their attention? lol I'm going to have to eventually let them know I delivered! LOL
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July 11th, 2014, 04:49 PM
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I didn't have a backup OB with my third or fourth. With this pregnancy, the practice I want to be seen at, there is a backup OB. She's actually part of the team, but not the primary provider.
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July 12th, 2014, 05:30 PM
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I wouldnt say anything to the OB unless you know their reaction would be positive.
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