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January 10th, 2008, 05:20 PM
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well everyone new from the beginning that I would be doing a home birth and no one ever said anything about it. But now that I am further along, everyone keeps saying "so, are you really going to have the baby at home" or "what if something happens" or "your midwife is an hour away, what if she doesn't make it"

I just smile and say yes I am still having a home birth. It is way better then a hospital birth.

I thought maybe everyone was ok with the idea since they have not said anything for so many months, but I guess they just thought I would change my mind. By everyone I mean all of James's family. My mom had 2 home births and my grandma was the one that talked her into it. So they are both very excited for me.
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January 10th, 2008, 05:37 PM
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Sigh. I am getting it from both sides! Apparently my mom has forgotten that my grandma and all 8 of her siblings were born at home, without even a midwife. That includes a set of twins!

Some people think we're a little nutty and go along with things, thinking we'll "come to our senses" later. When that doesn't happen they try to nudge you into thinking their way. I know it's hard to just not listen but really, just don't listen. I am working on that myself right now!

If you want to give more of an answer to the ones who keep asking I might go with "I am just as concerned about a safe and healthy birth as you are. That's why I am having a homebirth. I believe it will go much better for me than a hospital birth ever could." Or else just let James deal with them, since it's his family.

I hope they come around!
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January 10th, 2008, 07:37 PM
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That's so cool about your Mom and Grandma. I bet they will be awesome support emotionally for you as you get closer. My Mom wasn't too sure about the home birth at first, but after being here for it she completely changed her mind. I was lucky that she got to be with me at several of my pre-natal visits before Reid came and she was the one who cut his cord and then got Evelyn up after he was born. It was an amazing experience for her and since she attended my other three hospital births she really knew how different it was. I really hope that at least some of my kids try birthing at home when the time comes

I'm sorry you're dealing with all the comments. Hopefully once you address them they won't keep saying those things. I found that if I simply said "Yes, we're having a home birth and I'm really looking forward to it" people usually didn't say much after that
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January 10th, 2008, 09:00 PM
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Blech. Stupid comments. Sorry you're having to deal with them.

I found that I got a bunch early on, and then everyone pretty much left me alone until close to my due date too - when they made one more last-ditch effort to convert me to their way of thinking. I just shared this in another thread, but...that's when I sent this link to those who had email. (Read carefully before deciding who to share it with, though.) A couple of people actually told me they felt better after reading it, and at the very least, it shut the rest of them up.

Sounds like you have an amazing support system going on, so focus on your side of the family instead of James's - they'll see for themselves how well things go once your new little one is here!
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January 11th, 2008, 09:59 PM
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I'm sorry to say it never really gets any better. MIL cried trying to guilt us into a hospital birth, I doubt that the response will be any better next time. Ah well, just post on here and vent about it as often as you need to.
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January 12th, 2008, 06:49 AM
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i've gotten that too....not so much from family, but from kevin's co workers(we used to work together so i know them too). it quite annoying when ppl can't mind their own business!
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