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January 10th, 2008, 06:31 PM
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Once I become pregnant I plan on emailing all my family members our plan to HB, why we choose to HB, how hurtful comments can be concerning HB etc... I hope to address all concerns in the original email, but I want to let them know that they can ask me any questions (in a non-condescending way) and I'll do my best to answer them, as I know their concern is only for my & the baby's safety.

I'll also be adding that any negative comments will not be tolerated, will be very hurtful, are un-supportive and can possibly jeopardize their place in my home during the birth of our child.


WDYT? Is there anything you can think of that I should add/leave out?

ETA: I thought this was cute... I just told DH about my plan and he said, "I don't really care what anyone thinks about it. They can all kiss my butt and live their life how ever they want."
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January 10th, 2008, 08:53 PM
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I think it sounds like a great idea, and wish I'd had the nerve to do it myself. Might have saved me a whoooole lot of unwelcome comments from a few "friends".

Later on in my pregnancy, I did send THIS LINK to several of my family and friends to help explain our choice. I highly recommend reading it closely first, though - there's one little snippet under question/comment #8 that might be offensive to some people (that's the reason my MIL didn't get it...)

Hopefully putting it all out there in the very beginning will save you a lot of headache for the rest of your journey - as long as you word it as tactfully (yet firmly) as possible.
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January 11th, 2008, 07:29 AM
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I wish I could do something like that. Unfortunately my family just doesn't want to hear it. They feel like my decision is a direct insult to their choices ... just because it's not the same.

I hope they get it and you avoid the comments!
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January 11th, 2008, 07:44 AM
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Thanks for the link I'll read it later when I have time and see how well it is
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January 11th, 2008, 08:41 AM
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That is a great link, Ragmama. I bookmarked it!!!
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January 11th, 2008, 09:18 AM
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It was! I just read it and really enjoyed it! Why would number 8 get someone riled up?
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January 11th, 2008, 01:36 PM
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Okay, not riled up exactly...the whole comment about the virgin's first time under #8 was the reason I didn't send it to *everyone* that I might have otherwise. I can just see my MIL choking over that one.
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January 11th, 2008, 07:29 PM
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Personally, I agree completely with your DH. No one will know of my plan to homebirth until after the birth, if I even tell them then. It's really none of their business, I don't need ignorant comments, and it just seems to be the best route for me.
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January 11th, 2008, 08:40 PM
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Personally, I agree completely with your DH. No one will know of my plan to homebirth until after the birth, if I even tell them then. It's really none of their business, I don't need ignorant comments, and it just seems to be the best route for me.[/b]
My husband wasn't talking about not telling anyone. I understand what you are saying though. For me, I want my family there, and DH wants what I need, so my sister and mother will be there for support. They were not gun-ho about my pro-natural-childbirth with Kailey, but they supported me nonetheless. It's the comments that I'm keeping at bay, not the family.
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January 11th, 2008, 09:18 PM
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well jackie at least you know I"m 100% behind you!
I have a plan like this already typed up as well and wrote it about a year ago
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January 12th, 2008, 09:29 AM
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well jackie at least you know I"m 100% behind you!
I have a plan like this already typed up as well and wrote it about a year ago[/b]
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January 13th, 2008, 08:45 PM
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Personally, I wouldn't tell anyone where/how you plan to birth your baby, you will get a lot less flak when you tell them after s/he is here.
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January 13th, 2008, 09:00 PM
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Personally, I wouldn't tell anyone where/how you plan to birth your baby, you will get a lot less flak when you tell them after s/he is here.[/b]
That wouldn't fly here (nor would I want it too!). Even though my family may disagree or not be on the same page with me, we ALWAYS have EVERYONE there when anyone goes in labor.... it's just how we work. I'd DIE if I didn't have my family there I know what you mean though. I'm hoping to take a lot of time on this email/letter thing though so it doesn't come off rude or anything and they genuinely see & support our decision. Here's hoping anyway!!!
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January 14th, 2008, 09:01 AM
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I would at least wait until you are later in the pregnancy. I've already talked to the people who will be at the house with me, and have been slowly talking about it for 2 years so they get used to the idea and have time to ask questions
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