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I have a friend who I promised I would throw a shower if no one else would. Well turns out her mom is going to throw one which is great, because I am not as financially stable as I was when I made this promise. Her mom contacted me to get the names and addresses of her friends that she didn't have.
We're talking close to 80 people for this shower. I admit I am slightly jealous since for my first I never got a shower and my mom felt bad and throw me one for my second, about 15 people showed up.
Here's the deal though, this friend seems to think I should fork out money so she can have 2 baby showers for one baby. She seems to be under the impression that she should get 2 for some reason.
I flat out told her no and that I thought she was being very greedy. I think I may have really hurt her feelings.
What do you guys think? Am I wrong? It just seems so extream to have a shower with 80+ people and expect a second. I'm so insulted by her I am tempted not to even go.
If everyone is coming to the one shower I do not see a need for a second shower! I do not think you are wrong. I ended up throwing all three of my showers but I have parents that are divorced and then I threw a friend shower. I have no sisters, and my sister in laws are too wrapped up in themselves, even though I threw them both baby showers and my aunt got sick just before the showers there fore I ended up throwing my own.
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I don't have a problem with mulitply showers if different people are invited to them. We always do one at school for teacher who are having babies and I'm sure they have seperate ones for non-work friends. But it does seem excessive to have more than one with the same people. Does she know that you passed on name to her mom?
No, you are not wrong. Multiple baby showers are pretty common now. I know that I had several for my second, but generally, there is a different guest list for each one. I would either cohost a shower with her mom, like kayexcited said, or I would simply explain to her that it just isn't in the cards.
A great way to make her happy and keep you out of the proverbial "dog house" is to have a special day for mom and a few close friends. Go get a facial or have a makeup party, something very small where she can have her second "shower" and you don't have to fight with her.
Of course, that is only a suggestion and if you can't afford it or don't feel comfortable with it, don't do it.
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