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April 13th, 2009, 10:49 PM
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Thread title was a little tricky to think of, lol. But I'm basically curious to know what exactly does the mom to be do for a baby shower being hosted by someone? My mom refused to host mine (she's really into etiquette) and so her friend/co-worker insisted throwing one for me but she really doesn't know me. Am I allowed to have a say in the invites, should I buy them? Am I allowed to have a say in the theme? Do I need to buy any sort of gifts?

I'm so lost and confused, lol. The invite list was already taken care of without me and the date was already set without even asking me (little peeved on that). I'm due in July, should these things (invites, themes, food, etc.) have already been brought up to me?
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April 19th, 2009, 05:31 PM
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Thread title was a little tricky to think of, lol. But I'm basically curious to know what exactly does the mom to be do for a baby shower being hosted by someone? My mom refused to host mine (she's really into etiquette) and so her friend/co-worker insisted throwing one for me but she really doesn't know me. Am I allowed to have a say in the invites, should I buy them? Am I allowed to have a say in the theme? Do I need to buy any sort of gifts?

I'm so lost and confused, lol. The invite list was already taken care of without me and the date was already set without even asking me (little peeved on that). I'm due in July, should these things (invites, themes, food, etc.) have already been brought up to me?
Typically (I recently hosted two for friends), the mom to be is asked what date she woudl like, which sounds like that has already happened (which is really werid, as the person of honor obviously has to be there! Do you think they asked your Mom on days that she knew worked for you and just went from there?) Then the invites is completely up to the mom to be as well. Since that is done too, they must have asked your mom as well since you said the people throwing the party don't really know you (how would they get addresses?). So I ask the moms to be what theme/colors they would like, what food they would like, do they want games, etc. I would ask your Mom if they are talking with her otherwise I don't know where they would be getting their info on what you want! Good luck!
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April 21st, 2009, 02:17 PM
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The mom to be really shouldn't be involved in the planning of her shower, etiquette wise, other than to provide a list of invitees and the dates that she is available.
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April 21st, 2009, 05:38 PM
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I had to do most, I wish someone would have just taken over for me!! But I do believe you should have picked the date!!
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May 11th, 2009, 12:12 PM
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The mom-to-be is supposed to be asked about the date, since obviously she should be there. As for the theme, invitations, food, games, etc. - absolutely not. You're the guest of honor and should have nothing to do with that. However, it is appropriate to give them a list of people that you'd like invited.
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May 11th, 2009, 11:09 PM
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The mom to be really shouldn't be involved in the planning of her shower, etiquette wise, other than to provide a list of invitees and the dates that she is available.
Exactly! Etiquette-wise the host is not obligated to have the mom-to-be in on the planning. And since your mom's friend is probably from her generation (?), she is probably all about the old-school etiquette.

However, when I host a baby shower I do ask the mom-to-be what theme she would prefer and if she would like a "simple shower" (snacks, cake, and gift-opening) or more "extravagant event" (games, prizes, door prize, gift-opening, maybe even a brunch or at least heavy appetizers, and cake). But, I'd go so far to ask these questions because I'm close to the mom-to-be and I want her to be completely happy with her baby shower. Since your mom is from an older generation, she might be thinking that she is nice enough to throw you the shower and that alone should make you happy. Good or bad, our generation has more expectations to make us happy.
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May 14th, 2009, 09:50 AM
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I think the mom to be should at least be consulted on the date. I mean, she has to be there ya know?

I helped my mom plan my shower and this went very well as it was exactly what I wanted.
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I had two baby showers and I think it depends on the host. My friend who is an event planner threw one for me and all I did was pick the date and send her the list of people to invite. Then my family threw me a "meet the baby" shower after V was born and I helped plan the food, pay for the favours, etc.

I have co-hosted two baby showers. One the mom didn't do anything except pick the date and guest list. For the other the mom bought the favours, picked the, helped pick the games, etc. I had the most fun when the mom was involved in the planning.

So it can very, but I think with your mom being so old fashioned you are just going to show up and have no say.
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August 5th, 2009, 11:40 AM
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I think you should at least be able to put in some of your ideas, seeing that it is your baby shower. I'm helping my SIL plan mine.. I'm not completely in charge, she's handling most of it, but I do put my advice & opinion in when needed
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