We pride ourselves on having the friendliest
and most welcoming forums for moms and moms to be! Please take a moment
for free so you can be a part of our growing community of mothers.
If you have any problems registering please drop an email to firstname.lastname@example.org.
Our community is moderated by our moderation team so you won't see spam or offensive messages posted on our forums. Each of our message boards is hosted by JustMommies hosts, whose names are listed at the top each board. We hope you find our message boards friendly, helpful, and fun to be on!
Hey ladies! My husband and I are expecting our first child in January. Not only will this baby be our first, but she will also be the first grandchild on both sides. Because of this, my MIL is really excited and has volunteered to throw me a baby shower. While I am extremely excited and I appreciate everything she's doing, I don't really know how I feel about her inviting her friends from church and her workout group that I have never even met! When my husband told her that they would only be allowed to come if it were OK with me, her response was "Well, it's not all about her. It's about me too."
I don't know if this is normal? Did your mother-in-law or father of the baby's mom invite people to your baby shower that you didn't know or say that it wasn't all about you?
...I am being too sensitive? I've just always thought that the baby shower was to congratulate and shower the mother with gifts and good wishes? HELLPPP!
Wow, your not being sensitive she is being insensitive. The point of the shower is not at all about her. I'm sure she is just really excited to get a grandbaby but still. I would politely tell her that you appreciate the thought but you aren't comfortabl with it. Most people who come to showers bring gifts and why would she invite people who have never met you?
It's not about her she was out of line for saying that, but I don't necessarily think that's what she meant. I know people from my mom's church and her job that have NEVER met my husband or even know what he looks like are coming to my shower, because they know my mama and they're excited for her because it's her first grandbaby. She's known them forever and through her they kinda watched me grow up. It might be the same way for these people and your MIL/husband. If he grew up in that church they know him and they're a bit emotionally invested in his life.
I know this is old but I still wanted to answer.
J Married to D 08.21.2009
Bonus Mama to R (14) and M (7)
Warm up your home with a fabulous warmer and some of our scentsational scents! PM me for details!!!
That's definitely her issue, not yours...but because she's your MIL it's a delicate balance between standing up for yourself and not pissing her off too much. I'd ask DH for some help on this one. I'll be thinking about you!
It's your baby shower not of your mother-in-law.
You should be happy with this baby shower. if you will not feel comfortable in this party then it will not worth that all.
Discuss it with your Mother-in-law and tell her what you are thinking. You should do this if you do not want to ruin your very important baby shower.