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February 2nd, 2007, 01:45 PM
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K, so I posted awhile back my friend Victoria offered to do my baby shower for me. I've been waiting to hear word about the shower for a bit now, and a couple weeks ago she sends me an email saying she 'can't do it', she 'is so lost and doesn't know what to do', and then asked for one of my friend's number so she could help her. So I gave her Catherine's number and Catherine asks me if there was anything specific that I wanted done, or not done and such. So I told her,. because it is a mix of our friends and family, I wanted it to be a simple gathering-that's fine it was going to be held at a restaurant apparently, which was great. NOW it's being held in Catherine's very VERY small basement apartment with nowhere nearly enough room to cram in everyone!! Seoncd I said no games, most of my family and DH's family are older and more conservative, and I just wanted a nice gathering, with appetizers and cake. I said to Catherine don't get a cake because the baby's Godmother wants to make it. So apparently, if they can't make games, then I don't get a shower.....SO what the he!! was the point in asking me if I had any preferences and such??? I already don't want this shower
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February 5th, 2007, 10:28 AM
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Oh my goodness! Can anyone in your family host it? I can't believe that people are so insensitive and selfish when it comes to such a special day for someone else.
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February 5th, 2007, 03:34 PM
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Hm, thanks Jacquie. Well i told everyone to forget my shower. Catherine's been trying to get ahold of Victoria now for days on end to get everything straigtened out, and Victoria isn't calling her back, and I don't think it's fair Catherine get this all dumped on her since she was just suppost to be assisting Victoria, not planning it all. So forget it. Shower's off and I guess I'm not going to have one
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February 6th, 2007, 06:39 AM
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WOW! I'm really sorry! I hope that it all gets straightened out for you! Otherwise maybe you can do a welcome home baby party after the baby gets here.
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February 6th, 2007, 08:00 AM
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I can't remember if your shower was going to be before or after the baby's arrival, but I don't think that there is anything wrong with you and DH hosting a welcome baby party yourselves after the baby's arrival. The baby's godmother can still make a cake for the occassion, and with you planning it, you will get what you want - no games, etc.

My only other suggestion is what about asking the baby's godmother to host it? I can't believe that it's so difficult for your friends to pull it together for you on this - I would be honored to be hosting a friend's baby shower!
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February 6th, 2007, 08:55 AM
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Yeah DH and I decided that we are going to put her Baptism celebration and welcome home baby together in June, have a bbq ourselves, and if people bring gifts then that's fine but I wouldn't expect anything. And yes my shower was suppost to be before Haylee was born.
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February 7th, 2007, 08:54 AM
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Since youre not going to do any games or anything I dont see why you couldnt just send out some invitations and throw together some food.

It really sounds like a welcome home party would be best for your situation. I hope everything works out well for you and sorry you had so much trouble with your friends!
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February 12th, 2007, 10:52 AM
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Oh my goodness! Can anyone in your family host it? I can't believe that people are so insensitive and selfish when it comes to such a special day for someone else.[/b]
I believe it. When my wife and I told everyone about her pregnancy my mother offered to do the shower, but my MIL insisted on doing it herself. My wife made it perfectly clear that she wanted a co-ed shower, more like a family gathering (she's never been into the frilly stuff). About a month ago my MIL called my wife and told her what she was thinking of doing for the shower; at a restaurant, girls only with frilly stuff. My wife reiterated that she didn't want that type of shower. A few weeks went by and I didn't hear anything so I called my MIL to see how things were going and if she needed any help. She was very nasty to me and told me that she had never heard of the type of shower that my wife wanted and if she couldn't do it her way she wasn't going to do it at all and that she wouldn't be dictated to by. That's all I needed to hear. I let my Mom out of her cage and she's off and running. We are having it at a hall, with about 40+ couples invited, lots of food and drinks and my Mom is making about 5 different favors. We are also going to have a diaper cake and alot of other cool things I found online like the hoagie made out of baby clothes.

So while I believe from first hand experience that people can be that selfish I still can't comprhend it. I'm 40 and my wife who has no siblings is 37. This will be my MIL 1st and probably only grandchild and from the way things are going I wouldn't be suprised if she doesn't come to the shower.
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