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March 2nd, 2008, 07:28 AM
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I need some help here, ladies. For anyone who knows for sure, what is proper etiquette for inviting folks you *know* will not be able to make it. Close relatives (i.e. in-laws) that you know and love, but are pretty sure they would not be able to make the flight/drive. Is it "the thought that counts" - and I should include them on the list so they know that I wish they were here? Or would sending them anything obligate them in some way?
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March 2nd, 2008, 06:21 PM
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I think it depends on how close you really are to them. I got an invite from a cousin's wife that I had met once for about an hour. They live in CA and I am in WI. I don't know her well at all and I'm sure they knew I wasn't going to fly out there for her shower. To me, it kinda felt like the purpose of sending the invite was so that I would send a gift. Just my thoughts!
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March 3rd, 2008, 07:05 AM
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Maybe you could give them a phone call, and let them know that you want them to know they are invited, but you totally understand that the distance might keep them from coming. Let them know that they shouldn't feel obligated to come or to send a gift, you just wanted them to know they are more than welcome if they can make it. Then, if they sound like they might be able to come, mail them an invitation.
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March 3rd, 2008, 01:35 PM
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I think it depends on how close you really are to them. I got an invite from a cousin's wife that I had met once for about an hour. They live in CA and I am in WI. I don't know her well at all and I'm sure they knew I wasn't going to fly out there for her shower. To me, it kinda felt like the purpose of sending the invite was so that I would send a gift. Just my thoughts! [/b]
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March 4th, 2008, 08:07 PM
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i have a similar situation, only the relatives that live far away are not mine, they are my boyfriends. most of which he has not seen in ages, however his mother insisted we invite them even though she says they wont come, but atleast they would send a gift. my feelings and my moms feelings were that this was not proper, and that just sending a birth announcement when the baby was born would be better. that way they could send a gift if they wanted but wouldnt have to feel obligated.
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March 6th, 2008, 11:07 AM
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I know my Mom will send invites to all my Aunts/Uncles/First Cousins, keeping in mind I have about 35 first cousins. I don't care if they get me something or not but the point of inviting them is that in my family people are miffed when they're not invited.
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